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22 year old 15 year old

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My brother is 22 years old having sex with a 15 year old hes a drug addict been in jail multiple times for theft. Should I call the cops. I think this girl deserves better
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:02 PM
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godsgirl26
by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 12:59 PM
I would tell her parents and let them work out the rest.
Now a days this kind of stuff is accepted sad but true.
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momsince04
by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:01 PM
So you are justifying you being slutty at 15 with being scared?? Haha I highly doubt that


Quoting Anonymous:

Well I am 27 and I dressed the way you would probably consider slutty. Short shorts belly shits bikini tops and shorts. That's the way it was. That doesn't mean that an ADULT should take advantage of a child. Its still rape whether the child says yes or not. The ADULT should know better. Plus at 15 she could just be having sex because she is scared of what this man might do to her if she don't like I was.




Quoting momsince04:

I don't know how old you are, but 15 yr olds are not like how they were when I was 15. Now, they dress like hookers, act like adults and get knocked up like if it something cool. Op never said her brother is raping teenage girls, she said he is sleeping with her. Again she must be hanging out with the same group of people that he is, and I highly doubt she doesn't want it.






Quoting Anonymous:

So your saying that since she is 15 that it can't be rape. I was a tiny girl at 15 and intimidated by adults. So I guess my mom was right that when my step brother (who was 24) came into my room when I was 15 and had sex with me and I was too scared to say no. That I must have wanted it huh. Well thanks for putting it into your prospective for me. Damn at 15 whether you WANT TO OR NOT in a lot of situations the CHILD is too intimidated to say no.








Quoting momsince04:

She's 15 and knows what she is doing. Yes op brothe is sick and irresponsible for sleeping w a 15 yr old, but she probably is as much as a pos as he is. Either way, she knows what she is doing. It's up to her parents do something with their slutty out of control 15 yr old.










Quoting areid1023:

good lord. so i guess 10 is your cutoff then? barf. 11, 12, 13, 14? all ok? 

luckily most states disagree with you.

i am yet to meet a 15 year old that knows what they're doing. they certainly do NOT know what they're doing when it comes to adult relationships.

and 'sleeping around'? as far as we know she is only sleeping (aka being raped by) with the OP's 22 year old brother. your bias is showing. if it wasnt for the adult having sex with her who knows if she'd be having sex at all. the imbalance of power makes it impossible to tell, hence, and once again, consent laws.









Quoting momsince04:

How can you say a 15 yr old is not able to consent to sex?? She is not an 8 yr old or 10 yr old. She is 15 and knows damn well what she is doing. An if someone is to stop her, then it should be left to the parents. She knows what she is doing, and she's ok with sleeping around with older men.

















Quoting areid1023:

this isnt about gender. i dont blame 'the guy' i blame the adult. if the genders were reversed or if it was a same sex interaction it would be just as wrong. 

yeah, so many PEOPLE are having sex young, that doesnt give adults a free pass to sleep with kids. fortunately, most adults dont have the temptation to do such a sick thing. 

in the vast majority of states (if not all, and regardless of archaic younger consent laws its still wrong) she does not have the capacity to consent. hence the reason for 'statutory' rape laws.which begs the question, how young would you like to see the legal 'cut off''? many children experience sexual abuse 'willingly' and then struggle with their perceived 'willingness'. the 15 year old child does not have the physiological or legal capacity to consent to sex with a 22 year old adult. he IS raping her because her 'willingness' means nothing. the absolute inherent imbalance of power in this type of situation implies coercion and rape. regardless of if the child says 'yes', says nothing, or 'started it'. 

this child is risking her life and someone should be there to prevent it. or at least do their darnedest by protecting her from predators like the OP's brother. 

not 'so be it'. how disturbing. 







Quoting momsince04:

If the girl is willingly sleeping with him, it's not a crime. So many girls are having sex young, and everyone always seems to blame the guy. If she wants it, then so be it. He is not raping her.




















Quoting areid1023:



sick. this is not the first blind familial allegiance reply ive read but i still dont understand it. ruin HIS life? by reporting his activity in which hes most likely legally raping a child (the only reason why reporting it would 'ruin his life')? would your opinion extend to a 14 year old? 13? 10? how young?  PLUS hes an addict, as if raping young teens wasnt bad enough. 

how ruined will the girl's life be if she gets pregnant by this guy? how about if she gets an STD or HIV from this known drug addicted adult? the psychological effects, alone, of sleeping with adults when you're a child are detrimental. 

i have a sister. i would take a bullet for her. but i would never in a million years stand by while she victimized anyone, let alone a child. and while it would pain me to no end, i am adult enough to know it was her actions that got her in trouble, not me standing up for whats right.








Quoting Anonymous:

No. Dont call them. Idk exactly what the situation is but its your brother. You do know that it will ruin his life dont you. Try talking to him and the girl. Maybe you can talk some.sense into them. Does he have a history of dating underage girls? Just think about it.











































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Anonymous
by Anonymous 30 on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:03 PM
Thank you but I've learned from it. Like the other women she just thinks that well she must want it. Whether that is true or not someone needs to be an advocate for this child. She is being taken advantage of maybe not like I was but still being taken advantage of.


Quoting areid1023:


i am so so sorry that happened to you. i am so sorry your mom betrayed you like that. what a violation upon violation. 


Quoting Anonymous:

So your saying that since she is 15 that it can't be rape. I was a tiny girl at 15 and intimidated by adults. So I guess my mom was right that when my step brother (who was 24) came into my room when I was 15 and had sex with me and I was too scared to say no. That I must have wanted it huh. Well thanks for putting it into your prospective for me. Damn at 15 whether you WANT TO OR NOT in a lot of situations the CHILD is too intimidated to say no.





Quoting momsince04:

She's 15 and knows what she is doing. Yes op brothe is sick and irresponsible for sleeping w a 15 yr old, but she probably is as much as a pos as he is. Either way, she knows what she is doing. It's up to her parents do something with their slutty out of control 15 yr old.







Quoting areid1023:

good lord. so i guess 10 is your cutoff then? barf. 11, 12, 13, 14? all ok? 

luckily most states disagree with you.

i am yet to meet a 15 year old that knows what they're doing. they certainly do NOT know what they're doing when it comes to adult relationships.

and 'sleeping around'? as far as we know she is only sleeping (aka being raped by) with the OP's 22 year old brother. your bias is showing. if it wasnt for the adult having sex with her who knows if she'd be having sex at all. the imbalance of power makes it impossible to tell, hence, and once again, consent laws.







Quoting momsince04:

How can you say a 15 yr old is not able to consent to sex?? She is not an 8 yr old or 10 yr old. She is 15 and knows damn well what she is doing. An if someone is to stop her, then it should be left to the parents. She knows what she is doing, and she's ok with sleeping around with older men.











Quoting areid1023:

this isnt about gender. i dont blame 'the guy' i blame the adult. if the genders were reversed or if it was a same sex interaction it would be just as wrong. 

yeah, so many PEOPLE are having sex young, that doesnt give adults a free pass to sleep with kids. fortunately, most adults dont have the temptation to do such a sick thing. 

in the vast majority of states (if not all, and regardless of archaic younger consent laws its still wrong) she does not have the capacity to consent. hence the reason for 'statutory' rape laws.which begs the question, how young would you like to see the legal 'cut off''? many children experience sexual abuse 'willingly' and then struggle with their perceived 'willingness'. the 15 year old child does not have the physiological or legal capacity to consent to sex with a 22 year old adult. he IS raping her because her 'willingness' means nothing. the absolute inherent imbalance of power in this type of situation implies coercion and rape. regardless of if the child says 'yes', says nothing, or 'started it'. 

this child is risking her life and someone should be there to prevent it. or at least do their darnedest by protecting her from predators like the OP's brother. 

not 'so be it'. how disturbing. 





Quoting momsince04:

If the girl is willingly sleeping with him, it's not a crime. So many girls are having sex young, and everyone always seems to blame the guy. If she wants it, then so be it. He is not raping her.














Quoting areid1023:



sick. this is not the first blind familial allegiance reply ive read but i still dont understand it. ruin HIS life? by reporting his activity in which hes most likely legally raping a child (the only reason why reporting it would 'ruin his life')? would your opinion extend to a 14 year old? 13? 10? how young?  PLUS hes an addict, as if raping young teens wasnt bad enough. 

how ruined will the girl's life be if she gets pregnant by this guy? how about if she gets an STD or HIV from this known drug addicted adult? the psychological effects, alone, of sleeping with adults when you're a child are detrimental. 

i have a sister. i would take a bullet for her. but i would never in a million years stand by while she victimized anyone, let alone a child. and while it would pain me to no end, i am adult enough to know it was her actions that got her in trouble, not me standing up for whats right.






Quoting Anonymous:

No. Dont call them. Idk exactly what the situation is but its your brother. You do know that it will ruin his life dont you. Try talking to him and the girl. Maybe you can talk some.sense into them. Does he have a history of dating underage girls? Just think about it.




































Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:03 PM
It's fine. I've learned from it and I know what not to do with my daughter. I'm a better mother then shes ever been. I'm proud of the woman I have become. they should have he lied about his age I didn't find out how old he was till he signed the birthcertificate

Quoting areid1023:


i am so sorry. :(. 

i cant believe the cops didnt do anything based on parental consent alone. 


Quoting Anonymous:

Because she didn't give a damn what me or my sister did . She was too busy not being a mother. Lucky the only thing I did was become a mother at 15 i graduated highschool now im in college studying criminal justice and happily married my little sister is a gang banger didn't finish school has no life goals and using abortion like it's birthcontrol. So pretty much we did what we wanted when we wanted no one could discipline us or. Tell us anything



Quoting areid1023:


why on earth was your mother okay with that??



Quoting Anonymous:

I was 15 and my baby's dad was 23 when I had my daughter. We where together two years before she was born. And my God mother called the police to report himwhen the cops came to investigate my mom told them she knew and was OK with it. So they left it alone. but if she wasn't it would of been a different story..... I would talk with her parents or Stay out of it.








Anonymous
by Anonymous 32 on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:05 PM
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Hell yeah you should! He is a sexual predator!

areid1023
by Bronze Member on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:06 PM


i couldnt agree with you more. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you but I've learned from it. Like the other women she just thinks that well she must want it. Whether that is true or not someone needs to be an advocate for this child. She is being taken advantage of maybe not like I was but still being taken advantage of.


Quoting areid1023:


i am so so sorry that happened to you. i am so sorry your mom betrayed you like that. what a violation upon violation. 


Quoting Anonymous:

So your saying that since she is 15 that it can't be rape. I was a tiny girl at 15 and intimidated by adults. So I guess my mom was right that when my step brother (who was 24) came into my room when I was 15 and had sex with me and I was too scared to say no. That I must have wanted it huh. Well thanks for putting it into your prospective for me. Damn at 15 whether you WANT TO OR NOT in a lot of situations the CHILD is too intimidated to say no.





Quoting momsince04:

She's 15 and knows what she is doing. Yes op brothe is sick and irresponsible for sleeping w a 15 yr old, but she probably is as much as a pos as he is. Either way, she knows what she is doing. It's up to her parents do something with their slutty out of control 15 yr old.







Quoting areid1023:

good lord. so i guess 10 is your cutoff then? barf. 11, 12, 13, 14? all ok? 

luckily most states disagree with you.

i am yet to meet a 15 year old that knows what they're doing. they certainly do NOT know what they're doing when it comes to adult relationships.

and 'sleeping around'? as far as we know she is only sleeping (aka being raped by) with the OP's 22 year old brother. your bias is showing. if it wasnt for the adult having sex with her who knows if she'd be having sex at all. the imbalance of power makes it impossible to tell, hence, and once again, consent laws.







Quoting momsince04:

How can you say a 15 yr old is not able to consent to sex?? She is not an 8 yr old or 10 yr old. She is 15 and knows damn well what she is doing. An if someone is to stop her, then it should be left to the parents. She knows what she is doing, and she's ok with sleeping around with older men.











Quoting areid1023:

this isnt about gender. i dont blame 'the guy' i blame the adult. if the genders were reversed or if it was a same sex interaction it would be just as wrong. 

yeah, so many PEOPLE are having sex young, that doesnt give adults a free pass to sleep with kids. fortunately, most adults dont have the temptation to do such a sick thing. 

in the vast majority of states (if not all, and regardless of archaic younger consent laws its still wrong) she does not have the capacity to consent. hence the reason for 'statutory' rape laws.which begs the question, how young would you like to see the legal 'cut off''? many children experience sexual abuse 'willingly' and then struggle with their perceived 'willingness'. the 15 year old child does not have the physiological or legal capacity to consent to sex with a 22 year old adult. he IS raping her because her 'willingness' means nothing. the absolute inherent imbalance of power in this type of situation implies coercion and rape. regardless of if the child says 'yes', says nothing, or 'started it'. 

this child is risking her life and someone should be there to prevent it. or at least do their darnedest by protecting her from predators like the OP's brother. 

not 'so be it'. how disturbing. 





Quoting momsince04:

If the girl is willingly sleeping with him, it's not a crime. So many girls are having sex young, and everyone always seems to blame the guy. If she wants it, then so be it. He is not raping her.














Quoting areid1023:



sick. this is not the first blind familial allegiance reply ive read but i still dont understand it. ruin HIS life? by reporting his activity in which hes most likely legally raping a child (the only reason why reporting it would 'ruin his life')? would your opinion extend to a 14 year old? 13? 10? how young?  PLUS hes an addict, as if raping young teens wasnt bad enough. 

how ruined will the girl's life be if she gets pregnant by this guy? how about if she gets an STD or HIV from this known drug addicted adult? the psychological effects, alone, of sleeping with adults when you're a child are detrimental. 

i have a sister. i would take a bullet for her. but i would never in a million years stand by while she victimized anyone, let alone a child. and while it would pain me to no end, i am adult enough to know it was her actions that got her in trouble, not me standing up for whats right.






Quoting Anonymous:

No. Dont call them. Idk exactly what the situation is but its your brother. You do know that it will ruin his life dont you. Try talking to him and the girl. Maybe you can talk some.sense into them. Does he have a history of dating underage girls? Just think about it.






































 my little bug! 11-29-08

Anonymous
by Anonymous 33 on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:06 PM
He's ur brother let other people do that for u stay out of it
kmorales7690
by Ruby Member on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:07 PM
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Call the cops! That's gross!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 30 on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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I was a virgin when that happened to me fuck you very much. And didn't trust another man until I met my DH 5 years later. You don't know me just because a girl dresses a certain way to fit in doesn't mean they sleep around. I went to church. Had a very strong faith in GOD and wanted to wait for marriage. Its stupid people like you who bully and judge.


Quoting momsince04:

So you are justifying you being slutty at 15 with being scared?? Haha I highly doubt that




Quoting Anonymous:

Well I am 27 and I dressed the way you would probably consider slutty. Short shorts belly shits bikini tops and shorts. That's the way it was. That doesn't mean that an ADULT should take advantage of a child. Its still rape whether the child says yes or not. The ADULT should know better. Plus at 15 she could just be having sex because she is scared of what this man might do to her if she don't like I was.






Quoting momsince04:

I don't know how old you are, but 15 yr olds are not like how they were when I was 15. Now, they dress like hookers, act like adults and get knocked up like if it something cool. Op never said her brother is raping teenage girls, she said he is sleeping with her. Again she must be hanging out with the same group of people that he is, and I highly doubt she doesn't want it.








Quoting Anonymous:

So your saying that since she is 15 that it can't be rape. I was a tiny girl at 15 and intimidated by adults. So I guess my mom was right that when my step brother (who was 24) came into my room when I was 15 and had sex with me and I was too scared to say no. That I must have wanted it huh. Well thanks for putting it into your prospective for me. Damn at 15 whether you WANT TO OR NOT in a lot of situations the CHILD is too intimidated to say no.










Quoting momsince04:

She's 15 and knows what she is doing. Yes op brothe is sick and irresponsible for sleeping w a 15 yr old, but she probably is as much as a pos as he is. Either way, she knows what she is doing. It's up to her parents do something with their slutty out of control 15 yr old.












Quoting areid1023:

good lord. so i guess 10 is your cutoff then? barf. 11, 12, 13, 14? all ok? 

luckily most states disagree with you.

i am yet to meet a 15 year old that knows what they're doing. they certainly do NOT know what they're doing when it comes to adult relationships.

and 'sleeping around'? as far as we know she is only sleeping (aka being raped by) with the OP's 22 year old brother. your bias is showing. if it wasnt for the adult having sex with her who knows if she'd be having sex at all. the imbalance of power makes it impossible to tell, hence, and once again, consent laws.










Quoting momsince04:

How can you say a 15 yr old is not able to consent to sex?? She is not an 8 yr old or 10 yr old. She is 15 and knows damn well what she is doing. An if someone is to stop her, then it should be left to the parents. She knows what she is doing, and she's ok with sleeping around with older men.




















Quoting areid1023:

this isnt about gender. i dont blame 'the guy' i blame the adult. if the genders were reversed or if it was a same sex interaction it would be just as wrong. 

yeah, so many PEOPLE are having sex young, that doesnt give adults a free pass to sleep with kids. fortunately, most adults dont have the temptation to do such a sick thing. 

in the vast majority of states (if not all, and regardless of archaic younger consent laws its still wrong) she does not have the capacity to consent. hence the reason for 'statutory' rape laws.which begs the question, how young would you like to see the legal 'cut off''? many children experience sexual abuse 'willingly' and then struggle with their perceived 'willingness'. the 15 year old child does not have the physiological or legal capacity to consent to sex with a 22 year old adult. he IS raping her because her 'willingness' means nothing. the absolute inherent imbalance of power in this type of situation implies coercion and rape. regardless of if the child says 'yes', says nothing, or 'started it'. 

this child is risking her life and someone should be there to prevent it. or at least do their darnedest by protecting her from predators like the OP's brother. 

not 'so be it'. how disturbing. 








Quoting momsince04:

If the girl is willingly sleeping with him, it's not a crime. So many girls are having sex young, and everyone always seems to blame the guy. If she wants it, then so be it. He is not raping her.























Quoting areid1023:



sick. this is not the first blind familial allegiance reply ive read but i still dont understand it. ruin HIS life? by reporting his activity in which hes most likely legally raping a child (the only reason why reporting it would 'ruin his life')? would your opinion extend to a 14 year old? 13? 10? how young?  PLUS hes an addict, as if raping young teens wasnt bad enough. 

how ruined will the girl's life be if she gets pregnant by this guy? how about if she gets an STD or HIV from this known drug addicted adult? the psychological effects, alone, of sleeping with adults when you're a child are detrimental. 

i have a sister. i would take a bullet for her. but i would never in a million years stand by while she victimized anyone, let alone a child. and while it would pain me to no end, i am adult enough to know it was her actions that got her in trouble, not me standing up for whats right.









Quoting Anonymous:

No. Dont call them. Idk exactly what the situation is but its your brother. You do know that it will ruin his life dont you. Try talking to him and the girl. Maybe you can talk some.sense into them. Does he have a history of dating underage girls? Just think about it.

















































areid1023
by Bronze Member on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:11 PM

where the hell is this coming from for you? is it your SO? was it your SO? what is this? a rape victim just spoke out and you respond with this callous and cavalier garbage? this has got to be personal for you, and i dont know from what viewpoint, but your anger is very misplaced. 

i feel like i dont want to know the answer but i have to ask, what if this was your daughter?

Quoting momsince04:

So you are justifying you being slutty at 15 with being scared?? Haha I highly doubt that


Quoting Anonymous:

Well I am 27 and I dressed the way you would probably consider slutty. Short shorts belly shits bikini tops and shorts. That's the way it was. That doesn't mean that an ADULT should take advantage of a child. Its still rape whether the child says yes or not. The ADULT should know better. Plus at 15 she could just be having sex because she is scared of what this man might do to her if she don't like I was.




Quoting momsince04:

I don't know how old you are, but 15 yr olds are not like how they were when I was 15. Now, they dress like hookers, act like adults and get knocked up like if it something cool. Op never said her brother is raping teenage girls, she said he is sleeping with her. Again she must be hanging out with the same group of people that he is, and I highly doubt she doesn't want it.






Quoting Anonymous:

So your saying that since she is 15 that it can't be rape. I was a tiny girl at 15 and intimidated by adults. So I guess my mom was right that when my step brother (who was 24) came into my room when I was 15 and had sex with me and I was too scared to say no. That I must have wanted it huh. Well thanks for putting it into your prospective for me. Damn at 15 whether you WANT TO OR NOT in a lot of situations the CHILD is too intimidated to say no.








Quoting momsince04:

She's 15 and knows what she is doing. Yes op brothe is sick and irresponsible for sleeping w a 15 yr old, but she probably is as much as a pos as he is. Either way, she knows what she is doing. It's up to her parents do something with their slutty out of control 15 yr old.










Quoting areid1023:

good lord. so i guess 10 is your cutoff then? barf. 11, 12, 13, 14? all ok? 

luckily most states disagree with you.

i am yet to meet a 15 year old that knows what they're doing. they certainly do NOT know what they're doing when it comes to adult relationships.

and 'sleeping around'? as far as we know she is only sleeping (aka being raped by) with the OP's 22 year old brother. your bias is showing. if it wasnt for the adult having sex with her who knows if she'd be having sex at all. the imbalance of power makes it impossible to tell, hence, and once again, consent laws.









Quoting momsince04:

How can you say a 15 yr old is not able to consent to sex?? She is not an 8 yr old or 10 yr old. She is 15 and knows damn well what she is doing. An if someone is to stop her, then it should be left to the parents. She knows what she is doing, and she's ok with sleeping around with older men.

















Quoting areid1023:

this isnt about gender. i dont blame 'the guy' i blame the adult. if the genders were reversed or if it was a same sex interaction it would be just as wrong. 

yeah, so many PEOPLE are having sex young, that doesnt give adults a free pass to sleep with kids. fortunately, most adults dont have the temptation to do such a sick thing. 

in the vast majority of states (if not all, and regardless of archaic younger consent laws its still wrong) she does not have the capacity to consent. hence the reason for 'statutory' rape laws.which begs the question, how young would you like to see the legal 'cut off''? many children experience sexual abuse 'willingly' and then struggle with their perceived 'willingness'. the 15 year old child does not have the physiological or legal capacity to consent to sex with a 22 year old adult. he IS raping her because her 'willingness' means nothing. the absolute inherent imbalance of power in this type of situation implies coercion and rape. regardless of if the child says 'yes', says nothing, or 'started it'. 

this child is risking her life and someone should be there to prevent it. or at least do their darnedest by protecting her from predators like the OP's brother. 

not 'so be it'. how disturbing. 







Quoting momsince04:

If the girl is willingly sleeping with him, it's not a crime. So many girls are having sex young, and everyone always seems to blame the guy. If she wants it, then so be it. He is not raping her.




















Quoting areid1023:



sick. this is not the first blind familial allegiance reply ive read but i still dont understand it. ruin HIS life? by reporting his activity in which hes most likely legally raping a child (the only reason why reporting it would 'ruin his life')? would your opinion extend to a 14 year old? 13? 10? how young?  PLUS hes an addict, as if raping young teens wasnt bad enough. 

how ruined will the girl's life be if she gets pregnant by this guy? how about if she gets an STD or HIV from this known drug addicted adult? the psychological effects, alone, of sleeping with adults when you're a child are detrimental. 

i have a sister. i would take a bullet for her. but i would never in a million years stand by while she victimized anyone, let alone a child. and while it would pain me to no end, i am adult enough to know it was her actions that got her in trouble, not me standing up for whats right.








Quoting Anonymous:

No. Dont call them. Idk exactly what the situation is but its your brother. You do know that it will ruin his life dont you. Try talking to him and the girl. Maybe you can talk some.sense into them. Does he have a history of dating underage girls? Just think about it.













































 my little bug! 11-29-08

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