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11 years ago today, I took advantage of the safe haven law in my state *confession update

Anonymous
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My son was born in my apartment. It was just me, my younger sister, and my cousin who is two years older than me. I delivered a baby boy. He was around 6 pounds, we didn't have a proper scale so I don't know how much exactly. I don't know how far along I was when I delivered because I didn't have prenatal care and I didn't know I was pregnant for a while. I think I was around 36 weeks?

Anyway my cousin and I had come up with the plan to wrap him up and leave him at the fire station down the street. 

I was able to finish high school and become a RN. I wonder about that little boy every day.

Do you think I'm awful? 

Not even my husband knows about this. Only my little sister and cousin and me.


ETA

I really appreciate all the kind words people are giving me. I guess I expected to be bashed. It makes me uncomfortable though. People saying what a good thing I did. IDK I just wanted to get rid of the baby. I suppose from some people's point of view they think "thank God you didn't kill it" but really, I'm not a monster. I wouldn't kill a baby. 

IDK, I'm certainly not a hero to that little boy. I just wanted him gone, so I dropped him off at the fire station. At the time I didn't feel like I was doing him a huge favor. I wasn't really thinking about him at all, that's why I feel so bad now.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:41 PM
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supermomz25
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:43 PM
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at least you took your baby to a safe place. I don't think you are awful at all.

CheesyKitty
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:43 PM
How old were you?

The dad didn't know you were pregnant? No one knew?
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soon2bmomof3619
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:43 PM
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You made the right choice in your situation, at least you cared enough to make sure he was safe.

LaughingCheetah
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:43 PM
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It was your choice. No judgement. Better than you throwing the little guy in the trash can or something.
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two4one
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:43 PM

No, I don't think you are awful. I think you were desperate. And you left him someplace safe. I am sure he was adopted pretty quickly, babies usually are.

SRUsarahSC
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:43 PM
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I applaud you for being smart enough to use the law and give the baby boy a life.  So many young moms panic and murder the baby. Do you know what happened to him?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:44 PM
Doesn't seem awful. Sad, but not awful. At least you protected his life, and didn't put him in a dumpster or something else horrible.
kitchen.ninja
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:44 PM
I think you did the best thing in that situation.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:44 PM
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Quoting CheesyKitty:

How old were you?

The dad didn't know you were pregnant? No one knew?

No one knew. I was 17 at the time.

bustybee
by Buzz Lightyear on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:44 PM

that probably happens more than people know. its better than alot of women out there.

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