He did great on melatonin and would fall asleep in 30 minutes. We still had night wakings but those improved. After 6 months we decided to try a certified sleep consultant and have another go at sleep training without melatonin. It failed miserably. Would still have 1-2+ hour bedtime processes and he started hating his bed... But, once asleep he rarely woke until 5am. But the nighttime process was killing me... A month with no progress and our consultant is now referring us to a sleep specialist (a doctor) for more help...
So we are still working our consultants program while we wait... But tonight after an hour of him (literally) bouncing off the walls I caved... I gave him a half dose of melatonin... He slowed down within 15 minutes and asleep in 20.
I feel awful and like I am failing because after all this time I still can't get my son to go to bed "like a regular kid".