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shouldn't he pay his own way??

Anonymous
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So with my bonus at work this year...I'm driving my kids to Disneyland.. I was worried about driving alone... my boyfriend asked me why he wasn't going. Well..he can if he comes up with about $800. Problem is..he doesn't have a good job and that could be alot for him. So we get in a fight..he thinks since we live together...it's our money and it should go to all of us going on this trip. Well..he's not my kids dad...and its not out money. I make significantly more than him..he makes enough to pay for his 1/4 off the household bills and that's it. I was here before I met him...so I don't depend on his money..and I don't feel like my work bonus should be spent on him. He's hurt and I feel bad...but if he doesn't pay...we're going alone. An I completely wrong??
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:13 PM
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sidneyb
by Silver Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:15 PM
I agree with you
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:16 PM
thank you!!


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I agree with you

AubreeGrace17
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:16 PM
No, you're not doing anything wrong.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:16 PM
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It's your money but I do think he should dump you.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:18 PM
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If the tables were turned, would you be ok with it?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:18 PM
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 If and until you are married, it's your money not joint money. You have the right to do with it what you want.

RLT2
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:18 PM
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Why do you have a man living with you and your children that you aren't committed to? IF you were truly committed it wouldn't be a "money" issue, it would be a spending time together issue. It sounds like you resent him for his financial situation and therefore your respect for him has suffered.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:18 PM
Well if he wants to he can...I guess.



Quoting Anonymous:

It's your money but I do think he should dump you.

Kim042269
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:18 PM
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I don't think there's a wrong or a right here...it's your decision, and the consequences will also be yours.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2013 at 11:19 PM
Yes...I would never let someone pay my way unless it was my kids dad.


Quoting Anonymous:

If the tables were turned, would you be ok with it?


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