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How would you approach this situation??

Posted by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 2:39 AM
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So my husband has a lot of brother's and sisters... scattered in a few states. Well his brother and sister moved down to Florida together because bil wanted to persue his education at a school that was close to his nearby his long time g/f. My sister in law had separated from his b/f that she was living with and her daughter. So BIL and SIL got an apartment together with my neice and everything was going good. Well BIL g/f cheated on him NUMEROUS times and we basically wrote her off as not good for BIL. He was completely heartbroken and would cry all the time. I felt terrible, he tried to move on but no girl would measure up to his ex that he was still madly in love with. We all wanted him to get over her because of how badly she had ruined their relationship... not once but over and over again. Well suddenly we started noticing that SIL was posting pics and videos from the state that her ex lived in. Pics of her daughter in the old house. Someone asked her what was she doing back in that state... and she revealed that she moved back in with her ex..... because BIL ELOPED with his ex g/f. I looked through some new photos he had put up and noticed he does have a ring on his left hand that I never noticed before. He has yet to tell anyone that he married this girl, I suppose because he knows how much we dislike her. Seven years ago.. heck even five years ago we loved this girl. We thought she was great for him and they were so adorable... but after everything we did, none of us can really be happy.

BIL, dh and Myself have always been super close. We have spoken about everything. DH and I are not "happy" that he got married, but I don't want him to think we're not being supportive. As much as I don't like her, we're family and my in laws can be a little crazy and ghetto at times so I don't want them to make a huge deal about it and BIL drops all communication with us. How would you approach this situation? A situation that tech we're not supposed to know about.

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by Anonymous 1 on Feb. 10, 2013 at 2:42 AM
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Call and congratulate him?



He's an adult and will make his "Bed". You don't have to be friends with the girl but try to be friendly.
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by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 2:48 AM


I guess.  I don't want him upset with SIL... should I just say that I noticed the ring in the pics? Oh I am most def positive that most people in this family won't be friends with her. My BIL was ill last year and had to come stay with DH and myself while he was seeing a specialist. The entire time he was up here she was hooking up with some scummy guy back in Fl. Bil called her to tell her his test results came back and were not good.. she didn't care and said she had to get off the phone to go to the club. I couldn't hold back and I just said, "What a BITCH! Don't call her anymore if she doesn't care about your health and well being!" and she said that she never wanted to speak to me again lol. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Call and congratulate him?



He's an adult and will make his "Bed". You don't have to be friends with the girl but try to be friendly.



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