Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Mom Confessions Mom Confessions

DH refuses to go to bed at the same time, then wakes me up!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

 

Poll

Question: What would you do?

Options:

Go off on his overtired butt?

Try another calm conversation


Only group members can vote in this poll.

Total Votes: 27

View Results

Usually this wouldn't bother me.  But the last few weekends he is staying up until 3 or 4 in the morning, then comes to bed and is so overtired that he snores like a train locomotive throughout the house, waking me.

Last night it was after 4 am when he went to bed. His snoring started waking me up at 5:30 and I finally gave up, and got up at 6:30am. I am sick with the flu and feel like beating the doo doo out of him! I want to go back to bed!

I have asked him (in a calm adult conversational manner)to go to bed at a better hour, he just never does. Would you try and deal with it? Or would you tell him off and throw a fit at this point?

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:25 AM
Replies (21-29):
Pink.Frosting
by Ruby Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:44 AM

I don't throw fits.  I would probably just go crash and sleep in the couch when he starts snoring.  Wouldn't be a big deal to me. 

hplesha
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:44 AM
I would move to the couch. There has been times when df went to bed before me or the kids and i went and slept on the couch because he was hogging the bed by the time i was ready
Posted on the NEW CafeMom Mobile
marissa615
by Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:44 AM
1 mom liked this

 Ha, DH comes to bed late all the time.  Sometimes he will cook a big dinner for himself at like midnight.  But, when I get up early in the morngings I always get him back.  I leave the bathroom door open when I shower and and blow my hair and put lights on when I get dressed for work.  He moans and covers his face with a pillow and I giggle.   I know it's terrible...hehe.  And if he should say something, I always reply " well, imagie how I feel when you cook at midnight or come get ready for bed at 3 am."  He usually shuts up after that.  Then he will try to be more careful and quiet the next few nights.  And I will be quieter in the mornings.  Then the cycle starts all over again.  hehehe.

 

SoKamele
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:45 AM

When it's that bad........tell him to sleep on the couch...lol I do. My DH sounds like a freight train.........and he passed that gene onto our DS.

Quoting Anonymous:

 The tapping thing does not work anymore.  When he is that tired he snores like a train no matter what position he is in.

Quoting SoKamele:

It's just not worth a fight to me. My DH has always done this....at first I tried talking calmly....then freaking out....all it did was cause problems.

Now I just don't care.......when he comes to bed and starts snoring...I gently tap him and tell him to roll over on his side.........and he stops snoring.

It's not worth a big blow out.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:45 AM

 Already have.  He is just fat and snores really bad when really tired.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'd have him checked for sleep apnea if he snores that loud.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:47 AM

Why can't you sleep on the couch?


Quoting Anonymous:

 No no guest bedroom and I cant sleep on the couch.

Quoting iamcafemom83:

Do you have a guest bedroom? I would tell him I don't care if he goes to bed late, but could he crash in the guest room until I get over the flu so I can rest.

Or maybe when he stays up late, period could he crash in the guest room?

My husband always goes to bed super late. I don't know how he does it and gets up for work.
Some nights he snores like crazy too. I have tried talking to him about it but its just how he is. He hasn't woken me up in awhile though.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:49 AM

 It is very uncomfortable.  I don't end up sleeping I just toss and turn.

Quoting Anonymous:

Why can't you sleep on the couch?


Quoting Anonymous:

 No no guest bedroom and I cant sleep on the couch.

Quoting iamcafemom83:

Do you have a guest bedroom? I would tell him I don't care if he goes to bed late, but could he crash in the guest room until I get over the flu so I can rest.

Or maybe when he stays up late, period could he crash in the guest room?

My husband always goes to bed super late. I don't know how he does it and gets up for work.
Some nights he snores like crazy too. I have tried talking to him about it but its just how he is. He hasn't woken me up in awhile though.

 


 

dorfmama
by Bronze Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:50 AM
My husband snores every night. He had for our entire 17 year relationship. I must just be used to it. It doesn't keep me up.
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
SoltaniMommy
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:53 AM

I would suggest he see a doctor about his snoring... It seems to me that he maybe doing you a favor by going to bed late. This way you may get sleep at all. The sooner he snores the sooner you are bound to wake up.  

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

close Join now to connect to
other members!
Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN