that being a mother is difficult at times. I think the majority of mothers try their best with the knowledge and the resources they have to raise their children to the best of their ability. Regardless the method, the goal of raising a child is to prepare them to be adults. I doubt very seriously how long you BF'd for, or if you CIO'd or if you put them in a front facing car seat at 1 year old and 20lbs, if you used a leash or didn't, is really going to matter in the grand scheme of things. We all get worked up that our method is the best and the right way. When in 20 years, all of that will not even matter. If you have already reached your goal and raised your children to be adults, then I commend you on accomplishing your goal. Did all these methods really make that big of a difference now that your kids are adults, do they ever look at you and say "Thanks Mom, for never making me cry it out, I am so much happier now then I would have been" "Thanks for keeping me in that car seat an extra 2 years rear facing, that really made a difference in the person I am today"? Doubtful.