It's not my job to feed the class
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My cousin lives with us and is in grade school. He just started living with us and going to this school in January. The parents are suppose to provide a snack for the kids once a month for the kids. Well why have me and DH provided snacks for the class 8 times in two months? We keep getting these letters from the teacher asking us to send snacks, why not get the other parents to send snacks. So this week I decided I am done and only send him a snack to make sure that he will have a snack, well he gets a letter home saying do not send a snack for him if I am not willing to provide a snack for everyone and they would prefer if I do not send him with funds to purcahse things from the school store either because it is not fair to the other children....
WTF?!?!?
Are private schools like this?
Have you spoken to the teacher about this? They may ask 2 or 3 parents for the same day, so it is possible for the rotation to come around quickly. There is probably a rotation schedule and a policy statement that was sent home at some point. You could ask for it. I had a teacher send home a snack because it was not "nutritional." Thing is, it was 100% fruit, but she did not read the label. She also limited kids to only Snackwell snacks. Irrrr.
My son's old school insisted I provide snack once a month for the entire class and I flat out refused, They arent my kids and arent my problem.
I also dont want other people making his food 29 days a month. So I told the principal he wont be participating in group snacks and will be getting his OWN snack daily. He argued, but I didnt budge and in the end that's what happened.
When I decided to have my child I was prepared to feed him, not a classroom of kids.
Since this is such a big issue for you, Tell them that you can not provide more snacks. It's not your problem that other parents don't provide.
Personally its what no more than 10 dollars to provide snack for a class of 25-30 kids, i buy a case of water and pretzels.. This cost me no more than 8 dollars, I don't complain, i just do it and understand that for some 10 dollars for snacks is too much.. I'm thankful we can do it...
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Anonymous:
So why not act like a mature adult and ask the teacher why you are being asked to send snack so much.
I've done that and I was told that they ask the parents who do provide to "fill in the gaps"
Quoting littlesippycup:Probably a bunch of deadbeat parents in your cousins class. That always sucks.
I'd ask the teacher why I was providing so many snacks when it is supposed to be one time a month. Then I'd tell her that I will only be sending one snack a month and since the other parents aren't bothering to pull their weight and for some reason were getting away with it, that I'd provide my kid (cousin in your case) a snack and make sure they had money and I better not get one more letter chastising me about any of that or we would have a little meeting with the principal and if that didn't stop, I'd go up the ladder until it did. I have no patience anymore for snotty teachers with a superiority complex.
I know what you are going through. My twins are in PreK and their teacher asks parents to send in snacks for the class. I found out last week from thier teacher that I am the only one that has been doing so and he wasnted to thank me for doing it. I told him that if this keeps happening I would only be sending in a snck for my boys and that was it. He agreed with me and said that if that was what I wanted to do that was fine. He is upset that the other parents are stepping up to help out and that he will be sending home a note at the end of the explaining to the other parents that they needed to ether help with class snacks or they needed to just send thier kids to class with one snack just for them or they would not be having one.I am happy to know that he agrees with me and is doing something about it.
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?