How could a teacher be so mean?

[Anonymous]

So in my sons kindergatens class there are six boys and the rest are girls. His birthday is in two weeks and he wanted to invited all six boys to his birthday party. I put the invatations in his backpack and as we was trying to give one to each of the boys, the teacher took them away and sent him home with a note and said that it was unfair for him to invite certain people from the class and not the rest.

I called to apologize, I honestly saw no harm at first, he's a boy, he wanted an all boys party, but I can see now how that could be hurtful. I felt horrible to make the other children feel left out. I called to offer to bring cupcakes to EVERYONE in the class on the day of his birthday because he had school on his birthday but the party was going to be the weekend after. I told her that I should have waited until school was over and he could give them out when I came to pick him up after school on the front ramp.

She then told me that she didn't care when he gave them out, if he invited only certain people and not the whole class, she would have to tell the principal and he could face some trouble.

CAN SHE DO THAT?! It's not like we are doing this at school! How could he get into trouble?!

[Marja2011]

She cant and I would go to the office to raise hell.

[MooreBoysMama]

We have the same rule here. The whole class must be invited to pass invitations out at school.

This is the rule for the whole school. Grades K thru 5th.

[momof2891]

I don't think she can legally do that. I would talk to the principal. Good luck!

[Sharbear42371]

She sounds like a real asshole. I don't see what they can do about it. I would keep an eye on her.

[Tal0n]

OMG, what pussies are they cultivating in public schools with this bullshit rule!!

[Kaelaasmom]

 Mail the invitations. I know that it is clearly listed in our school handbook that if the whole class isn't invited, invitations cannot be given out on school grounds.

[Kris_PBG]

It is common school policy that if the invites are not for EVERYONE in the class, they are not to be distributed at school.

Do it in the mail or on your own time. Following policy isn't "mean".

[KairisMama]

Some schools have that rule. My DDS class allows just boys or just girls though.

[CreziaMommyTo2]

she can if the invitations are handed out on school grounds.

rule is, mail them to select people, if you dont plan on inviting the entire class.

if she sees you handing them out or catches wind of it, yes she can report you.

[ColleenF30]

That's a crock of shit. One way to make a child feel horrible is invite them to a party they actually aren't wanted at.