can you fix a marriage?

[Anonymous]

I'm not normally one to post sappy love crap, but I'm really at a loss. It has finally hit me how unhappy I am with my husband. And it didn't use to be this way. I do love him, very much. And I want to get back What we had, but I don't even know how I lost it. I can't stand when he touches me. he is honestly just smothering. I don't want to kiss him most of the time. And when I tell him I love him. I just find myself questioing it. 2 months ago, I was crazy head over heels in love with him. What the hell happened, I still don't know.

How do I fix this. I want my marriage back

[MixedCooke]

2 months ago head over heels and today out of love??  How can you not know what has happened in such a short period of time??  I have been married going on 7 years so I can pretty much pinpoint what our issues are but 2 months and you cannot??

[Anonymous]

I've been married 10 years and I can tell you that we've had our highs as well as our lows. Go do something fun together. Maybe it will bring back some spark.

[lucsch]

Being married is like a rollercoaster. Sometimes he really pisses me off, for nothing more than chewing his food. Other days, I feel I'm pretty darn lucky to have such a great guy. It makes no sense. LOL We will be married 30 years this summer. It has not been easy. Since when is anything easy worthwhile?

Hormones?

[Anonymous]

How long have you been married? Maybe you guys just need to rekindle your romance without the kids. Write a list of all the things troubling you as well and talk to your husband about them. If that doesn't work try counseling. Good luck.

[RayneofTerror]

Your marriage can be fixed, if both if you want it to be. Talk to him, let him know how you are feeling. Ask him how he is really feeling because if his level of affection has changed he might be dealing with something. Now is not the time to stop communicating. 

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Omg I Cleary stated I still love him. If I didn't, I would have left. I'm just not happy and no I don't know what happend. Which is exactly what my post said. Read first next time please

Quoting MixedCooke:

2 months ago head over heels and today out of love??  How can you not know what has happened in such a short period of time??  I have been married going on 7 years so I can pretty much pinpoint what our issues are but 2 months and you cannot??

[Kitschy]

Two months ago everything was fine? That's kind of weird. Anyway, my marriage was crap and now it's great so I do believe if both people work you can fix a marriage. I was in counseling for 2 years, my husband worked on his issues separately.

[Kitschy]

She didn't say that you didn't love him she address your very weird statement that two months ago you were "head over heals" and you don't know what happened. 2 months isn't a lot of time for a marriage to go south to the point where you are asking if it can be saved, when just two months ago you were happy as a clam. Are you bipolar?

Quoting Anonymous:

Omg I Cleary stated I still love him. If I didn't, I would have left. I'm just not happy and no I don't know what happend. Which is exactly what my post said. Read first next time please

Quoting MixedCooke:

2 months ago head over heels and today out of love??  How can you not know what has happened in such a short period of time??  I have been married going on 7 years so I can pretty much pinpoint what our issues are but 2 months and you cannot??

[VannaMae307]

My marriage had hit rock bottom at one point and now is back, way way better, but it was hard work. Yes it is possible but not if it is one-sided. Does he know you're unhappy? If he doesn't, he can't fix anything, because he doesn't know it's broken.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Actually she did. "Out of love" I didn't say I was out of love. And we have been married a lot longer than 2 months. Things have just gone down hill and idk why. That doesn't exactly make me bipolar. Thanks tho

Quoting Kitschy:

She didn't say that you didn't love him she address your very weird statement that two months ago you were "head over heals" and you don't know what happened. 2 months isn't a lot of time for a marriage to go south to the point where you are asking if it can be saved, when just two months ago you were happy as a clam. Are you bipolar?

Quoting Anonymous:

Omg I Cleary stated I still love him. If I didn't, I would have left. I'm just not happy and no I don't know what happend. Which is exactly what my post said. Read first next time please

Quoting MixedCooke:

2 months ago head over heels and today out of love??  How can you not know what has happened in such a short period of time??  I have been married going on 7 years so I can pretty much pinpoint what our issues are but 2 months and you cannot??