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I know eventhough I post this,no one probably gonna read it.But at least I release out what I've been keeping in my heart.I got married when I was 17,not because of I'm having or what,it just my husband want me to be with him coz he was going to migrating to Australia at that time.I say no at first,coz I want to continue my study and do what 17 girl will do with her life,but maybe because I love him too much and I wanna go away from my parents,at last I say yes.About my study he said that I'll study there too.So I thought it's gonna be cool and sweet me and him having study life there.Unfotunately,that is all just my stupid day dreamer.After I get married with him,I was being told that I can't continue study coz I'm not a citizen there.My heart broke like a looking glass.I'm so afraid to tell my mom.Coz my mom hoping that I will bring a degree for her.Annyway she find out by here own.She so mad at me and she keep saying I being wasting my life the whole 2 years.It is sad and hard if our own mother dosen't give us support.I can't even working.I live with my parents in law,and they are so annoying!!The whole 2 years I've been crying until 1 day I knew I was pregnant.Again I feel unhappy,worried and scared.My parents won't be like it if they knew it.I don't know what to do,I don't even have someone to talk to.All the thing I did was cry and got angry at my husband.My husband is the only child in his family.So he always follow what his parents says.One day we decided to tell my parents that I pregnant,and my mom called me.She scolded me with her hearthless word.I feel like killing myself.I try to take overdose pills but luckily my husband saw it and throw it away.By the time I try to get over it,coz I'm a mother of a beautiful baby now.Now I'm 20 and my baby already 5 months.I still don't get PR,I still live with my parents in law,I still not study yet and my parents dosen't happy and proud of me.

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:05 AM
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by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:28 AM
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thank u for ur supportive and touching post,really apperciate this :)

Quoting hlzcmjzajz:

That sounds like a hard situation to be in, I'm sorry... You can't always please your parents- I know mine wanted me to go to college & get a good paying job but I'm a stay at home mom of 2 & even though I know I disappointed them a little, I couldn't be happier.
The only thing I can say is talk to your husband, tell him how you feel & what you want. He needs to take your feelings into consideration too. I hope things start looking up for you. ((Hugs))

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:31 AM
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Don't give up on your dream! You still have your whole life ahead of you to get your education. Focus on being the best mother you can be to your precious baby and just know that you can and will go back to school one day. It will all work out! Congratulations on your new baby, and good luck.
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by Gold Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:32 AM

Good luck, enjoy your baby, hope things will improve for you!

by Ruby Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:38 AM
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I think you need to talk to your husband. You have time to make your parents proud, but you also can't keep living in such an unhappy situation. Your husband needs to compromise with you on a lot of levels. If he doesn't maybe consider going back to your home country.
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by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:39 AM
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You would need to obtain a student Visa in order to go to school in Austrailia- and you CAN do it!

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:41 AM


I can't imagine all that pressure and sadness from all ends. I wish I had the right words right now. If you ever need to vent to me , you can pm me. I understand what you are saying.


by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:50 AM

Thanks a lots guys for all the supportive posted,really apperciated all of it *hugs* group hug

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:27 PM

Omg thank u so much sol4J for this such meaningful and supportive post,i really appeciate this.hugs u back :D

Quoting sol4J:

When I read your story, my heart went out to you. I am sorry to hear of the frustration you are feeling and that you are hurting over your parents' comments. Obviously they mean a lot to you.  I know that we can certainly depend on each other for a lot of things but if you are getting to the point when you are feeling uneasy about how things are progressing; and, then it is clear that boundaries need to be established to protect your emotional health and also your marriage.  My best advice to you is to take care of yourself - just enjoy your Mommy time because it will goes fast.  Cherish the moments with your husband and your beautiful baby.  I was in similar situation as yours; my parents in law were living with us. But this was only for a season -- I assured you that won't be always this way.  When you have a chance, check this out. I'll leave you with this verse, "For everything there is an appointed time, and an appropriate time for every activity on earth... a time to plant, and a time to build up... a time to search, and a time to give something up as lost...a time to keep silent, and a time to speak..." Ecclesiastes 3:1.  HUGZ 

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:30 PM

There has to be something you can do education wise.  Did you complete high school?  How much longer until you get to move from your in laws?  Is your husband good to you?

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:35 PM
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Oh honey. You have your entire life ahead of you. Tons of people go to school in their middle to late 20s, even 30s and 40s. You can still get that degree! Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I know its been 2 years but you can figure something out. Just have a will to do it and tell yourself "I WILL DO IT!" and then take the steps to getting to your goal. Find out how you can become a citizen. Find out where the schools are closest to you. And talk to your husband about what steps you should take to move out of your in laws. Where theres a will, theres a way!

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