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doesn't anyone just enjoy being a wife and mom?

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why all the partying posts I was drunk and this happened or high and that.  what ever happened to settling down and being a wife and mom? I partied before I was a mom now I put my family first. believe me they grow up fast be a good mom settle down and raise your kids give them something to respect

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:49 AM
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GoddessAnna
by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:15 AM
If dad is sober, which is what was implied by the PP, he will be capable of making those decisions with a clear head.

I trust my inlaws with being able to make those decisions if both my husband and I are incapacitated in any way. I have had to take medicine for my own health that has rendered me unable to drive - and causes drowsiness - is that not putting my kids first? My husband was overseas too.


Quoting momaof8:

 


I didn't say anything except put your kids first. If your not doing that then yeah you should be a better mom. What if your drunk and your kids need you? You are in charge 24 hours a day of life altering decisions for someone elses life. Things turn on a dime. Sure go to a movie dinner ect but why get sloppy drunk or high? What if there were an accident and you need a clear head to make serious medical decisions and your out some where drunk? Three of mine were in a serious car accident out of the blue I was deciding who to allow life flighted where and what surgeries to sign for. You can't be responsible for anothers life and be high or drunk. wether or not your a good mom is on you. 


Quoting H't anab818:

Wow. Did you really just say that. I'm a good mom, actually a great mom to my kids and while yes my life is about my kids, they do have a father who can take care of them to as do lots of other moms. And some of these mom has shared custody, I dont I am married to the boys dad but still. He watches them and I go out at night after I have put them to bed and party with my friends once in a while, does that make me a bad mom hell no. And im sure that is how other married mom do it and single moms do it when dad has them. So take that shitty ass comment and shove it.

Btw I am happy being a wife and mom, but that is not all I am.



 

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momaof8
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:15 AM

 There is nothing wrong with any of those things. I am talking about the posts where women are too drunk to see straight and this or that happened now what do they do. Who puts themselves in those situations while a mom?


Quoting Fabulous24:

I love being a wife and a mom but those aren't the only thing that define me. I have a career, despite having a husband I am independent.GASP! I have a life outside of my husband and kids. I actually have friends! Friends that meet up for lunch, dinner, spa days, go to concerts, trips, shopping etc. I'm not a drinker or a smoker, niether are my friends. I still dance ballet, go to the gym. All things I did before kids and a husband I just do them in moderation.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:17 AM
We put our kids first. My dh and I are good to each other, as well as good parents to our children!
momaof8
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:17 AM

 why would your meds be included in this you are still there for your kids right and could handle a medical emergency.


Quoting GoddessAnna:

If dad is sober, which is what was implied by the PP, he will be capable of making those decisions with a clear head.

I trust my inlaws with being able to make those decisions if both my husband and I are incapacitated in any way. I have had to take medicine for my own health that has rendered me unable to drive - and causes drowsiness - is that not putting my kids first? My husband was overseas too.


Quoting momaof8:

 


I didn't say anything except put your kids first. If your not doing that then yeah you should be a better mom. What if your drunk and your kids need you? You are in charge 24 hours a day of life altering decisions for someone elses life. Things turn on a dime. Sure go to a movie dinner ect but why get sloppy drunk or high? What if there were an accident and you need a clear head to make serious medical decisions and your out some where drunk? Three of mine were in a serious car accident out of the blue I was deciding who to allow life flighted where and what surgeries to sign for. You can't be responsible for anothers life and be high or drunk. wether or not your a good mom is on you. 


Quoting H't anab818:

Wow. Did you really just say that. I'm a good mom, actually a great mom to my kids and while yes my life is about my kids, they do have a father who can take care of them to as do lots of other moms. And some of these mom has shared custody, I dont I am married to the boys dad but still. He watches them and I go out at night after I have put them to bed and party with my friends once in a while, does that make me a bad mom hell no. And im sure that is how other married mom do it and single moms do it when dad has them. So take that shitty ass comment and shove it.

Btw I am happy being a wife and mom, but that is not all I am.

 


 


 

GoddessAnna
by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:18 AM
My kids were stateside. My husband was in Afghanistan. Even dead sober I could have done nothing. My mom was in charge. I always leave my kids in capable hands.

Quoting momaof8:

 All I am saying is put your kids first. If your doing that great!  But what if God forbid there was a medical emergency? Would you be able to make those life altering decisions whie you were closing the bar? 




Quoting GoddessAnna:

I'm not just a wife and a mom, though. I'm a friend and a student and a bit of a rabble-rouser too. I love my husband and my kids, but my entire life doesn't revolve around them.

That being said, I'm not a huge partier. I did get my husband and his best friend to do shots in a bar during playoffs, though. I also closed a pub in England with some younger college students last spring. Every once in a while I like to do something silly like that - I make sure my kids are in safe hands and I have fun.



 

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momto2boys973
by Ruby Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:19 AM
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I love it! I never thought I would because I was too career centered when I was at the University but once my babies came, there was no way I wanted to focus on anything else!
GoddessAnna
by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:20 AM
No I couldn't. I'd be under the influence of a drug. You stated that a clear mind was needed, right?

Quoting momaof8:

 why would your meds be included in this you are still there for your kids right and could handle a medical emergency.




Quoting GoddessAnna:

If dad is sober, which is what was implied by the PP, he will be capable of making those decisions with a clear head.

I trust my inlaws with being able to make those decisions if both my husband and I are incapacitated in any way. I have had to take medicine for my own health that has rendered me unable to drive - and causes drowsiness - is that not putting my kids first? My husband was overseas too.



Quoting momaof8:


 



I didn't say anything except put your kids first. If your not doing that then yeah you should be a better mom. What if your drunk and your kids need you? You are in charge 24 hours a day of life altering decisions for someone elses life. Things turn on a dime. Sure go to a movie dinner ect but why get sloppy drunk or high? What if there were an accident and you need a clear head to make serious medical decisions and your out some where drunk? Three of mine were in a serious car accident out of the blue I was deciding who to allow life flighted where and what surgeries to sign for. You can't be responsible for anothers life and be high or drunk. wether or not your a good mom is on you. 



Quoting H't anab818:

Wow. Did you really just say that. I'm a good mom, actually a great mom to my kids and while yes my life is about my kids, they do have a father who can take care of them to as do lots of other moms. And some of these mom has shared custody, I dont I am married to the boys dad but still. He watches them and I go out at night after I have put them to bed and party with my friends once in a while, does that make me a bad mom hell no. And im sure that is how other married mom do it and single moms do it when dad has them. So take that shitty ass comment and shove it.

Btw I am happy being a wife and mom, but that is not all I am.


 



 




 

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lapcounter
by Queen Mom on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:20 AM
I love it!!!
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danandsamsmom
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:20 AM

Lots of people enjoy being a wife and mother. I think that my real life interactions with my real life friends are a better indicator than are posts by strangers on CM.

momaof8
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:26 AM

 I am not saying don't have other activities, friends, date nights, but why get sloppy drunk or high? what if they need you?  I have one with a severe bee allergy ten minutes to get to a hospital. She was with the sitter I was at the doctors with my other child. Suddenly there was a call she was stung could they start treatment while I was on my way? what if they needed to intabate ect. Everyday we are in charge of their lives and I just think some people don't take that serious enough. She was fine a few days later but it happens kids need you at the drop of a hat.


Quoting momto2boys973:

I love it! I never thought I would because I was too career centered when I was at the University but once my babies came, there was no way I wanted to focus on anything else!


 

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