why all the partying posts I was drunk and this happened or high and that. what ever happened to settling down and being a wife and mom? I partied before I was a mom now I put my family first. believe me they grow up fast be a good mom settle down and raise your kids give them something to respect
That being said, people need more in their lives. Going out and having a good time away from your kids is good for both the parents and the children. It helps the adults stay sane and teaches the children that the entire world doesn't revolve around them.
Quoting LAXmom21:This and OP - if people happen to go out a few times a month but don't get drunk or go out and get drunk once or twice a year so be it. Maybe it's there 40th birthday, a family wedding, WHATEVER, as long as 1 parent is sober or they are with grandparents it's NOT a big deal. I understand what happened to your family, but that is rare. Getting drunk every weekend all year long, that would be an issue for me, but that's just me. As long as people's kids are well cared for, it's not my business what they do.
Quoting xxshelbyxxx:
You're are so fucking annoying! You've quoted every single comment with the same reply: "that's fine BUT do you get so drunk you aren't able to make decisions for your kids?" How many times are you gonna fucking ask that!? I mean seriously, all these women are just telling you they have lives outside their kids, not one of them said they get schwilly drunk or high when they go out. They said they enjoy a glass of wine or beer now n then. And yea some moms said they smoke every once in awhile. None of these women AREN'T capable of caring for their kids that's ludicrous!
Quoting momaof8:
no one said to give up outside interests or friends ect, but are you getting so out of it if your kids needed you you would be useless? And how would you deal if you were too drunk to help if they needed you? If someone else had to make those decisions for your child?
Quoting itsm3:
totally this.
just because you're a parent doesn't mean you have to give up things you enjoy. while i can no longer party anymore (simply because i physiclaly can't stay up all hours of the night - i get too tired by 10pm), i still go out, have fun with friends, cultivate my own interest/passions etc. if it means going out to celebrate a friend's bday at a bar/club, i go.
when you give up everything you previously enjoyed doing because you feel like "you should" or "have to", you feel lost when your kids are all grown because you've lost yourself. jmo.
Quoting Hanab818:
Wow. Did you really just say that. I'm a good mom, actually a great mom to my kids and while yes my life is about my kids, they do have a father who can take care of them to as do lots of other moms. And some of these mom has shared custody, I dont I am married to the boys dad but still. He watches them and I go out at night after I have put them to bed and party with my friends once in a while, does that make me a bad mom hell no. And im sure that is how other married mom do it and single moms do it when dad has them. So take that shitty ass comment and shove it.
Btw I am happy being a wife and mom, but that is not all I am.
I agree with you. I'm 13 weeks pregnant with my first, and I've had numerous friends whom this post would hit hard. I have one friend in particular who got high while pregnant with both her girls, and gets high every morning while the youngest cries in her crib. It's insane.
I am a mother who is all about my kids and raising them right. I don't drink or smoke or go to bars or clubs. The only thing I do is take care of my kids, my husband and my home. When I go "out", it's with my husband, to a movie or dinner. Not out galavanting around town acting like a 21 year old fool.
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!
- momaof8
on Feb. 13, 2013 at 6:49 AM