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Do you have to be married to be considered a " STEP MOM " ?

Anonymous
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Even though we are not...can I still be called the step mom ?

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:25 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:27 PM
We're not getting married 'til March & my SS calls me "mom". I think it's case-by-case.
jillbailey26
by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:27 PM
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A step mother is the wife of one's father.  I guess if they want to call you step mom, go for it, but that's the actual definition.  Otherwise you're their father's girlfriend.


"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification"  Romans 14:19

LyTe684
by Ruby Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:28 PM


Quoting jillbailey26:

A step mother is the wife of one's father.  I guess if they want to call you step mom, go for it, but that's the actual definition.  Otherwise you're their father's girlfriend.


owl0210
by Emerald Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:28 PM
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 No you're a girlfriend not a step-mother.

QueenBof6
by Ruby Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:28 PM
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I am not married to my SO. His kids see me as SM.

It doesn't really matter to me. I fill the role. I will always be dads girlfriend. I don't plan on getting married. Ever.

And to add. Being a legal stepmom doesn't change anything legally with the kids.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:29 PM

No, you are not a step mom if you are not married. Step mom means "father's wife" so since you are not married, you are just dad's girlfriend, which has no tittle.

calvinsmommy18
by Gold Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:29 PM
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technically you're not the step mom but for simplicifation of terms Im sure the kids would refer to you as the step mom, rather than my dads gf. Especially if this is a very long term relationship
Kaya529
by Platinum Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:29 PM
Depends on how long you have been together.
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momsince04
by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:29 PM
Whatever the kid wants... If he wants to call you SM then ok, but for now you are still dads gf
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RobsPrincess24
by ThePrincess on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:29 PM

You can be called whatever you want. Legally though, you are not SM.

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