Even though we are not...can I still be called the step mom ?
Personally I think yes you have to be married to be a step mom.
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I don't consider myself a step mom, even if I were married, I would never call myself a step mom.
It' is just as easy to say "this is Kay, my dad's girlfriend" ( Kay is just an example) as it is to say "this is Kay, my step mom". When I was 17 my dad was with a woman for 4 years and she always tried to get me to introduce her as my step mom, I always told her no, she wasn't my step mom and in fact, she once introduced herself as my step mom and I corrected her, it embarrassed the hell out of her when I said "I didnt know you and dad got married" but she never tried it again. If you want to be the step mom, marry the dad, if for whatever reason you don't want to or he doesn't want to marry you, why should his children refer to you as their step mom?
Quoting calvinsmommy18:technically you're not the step mom but for simplicifation of terms Im sure the kids would refer to you as the step mom, rather than my dads gf. Especially if this is a very long term relationship
It depends. Im divorced from my stepkids dad and they still refer to me as their "other mom" because I was around for so much of their lives.
Quoting jillbailey26:A step mother is the wife of one's father. I guess if they want to call you step mom, go for it, but that's the actual definition. Otherwise you're their father's girlfriend.
A step mother is the wife of one's father. I guess if they want to call you step mom, go for it, but that's the actual definition. Otherwise you're their father's girlfriend.
As the bm no i would not consider you my child's "step mom" until you were married. As a child with a step mom no i would not consider you my "step mom" until you married my dad. I had 2 step moms and it was the same with both.
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