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Teacher requiring certain items for holiday party!

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My stepson's teacher sent home a letter saying that my child was required to bring plates and napkins to his Valentine's party.

I was like "uh, required?"

What if I have to work that day?

What if I'm short on cash?

What if I planned to donate something else?

What happens to my child if he doesn't bring those specific items?

What if biomom had gotten the letter? She would have thrown it away.

Fortunately I am able to abide by this.

BUT I thought it was really rude. Especially from a teacher I've met once in August before she took the whole first semester off.

How would you react to seeing that letter?

My kiddo is in KG by the way.
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by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 12:52 PM
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by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:03 PM

They do this at my son's school as well...if you would like to not have a required item to bring in you can take that up with the childs teacher. At my childs school I am required to send in home made snacks since I am one of the few parents for his class that is approved to bring in none store bought food.

by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:03 PM
So you and your husband only make minimum wage and that's upper class for your area?

Where do you live Haiti?

Quoting kappalopokis:

I live in an incredibly low income town.

My dh and I make a combined 33K yearly, and are considered "upper class" in this town. Because we actually work.

A lot of parents simply would not be willing to spend their money on a class party

Quoting mich.el.le:

Oh, good grief. People get offended over the dumbest things.

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by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:04 PM
I like it better that way the kids get a variety of things and everyone doesn't show up with collies or cupcakes and no plates or drinks
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by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:04 PM

and you wouldn't be the first mom clamoring to find an all night rite aid or baking cupcakes till 1 am.

Quoting kappalopokis:

I got it yesterday. Party is tomorrow. I work both days (yesterday and today and commute an hour each way.)

Quoting lucky2Beeme:

The only thing that would bug me is that it came so last minute. What she did I have seen many times through out my children's early years in school.

by Ruby Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:04 PM

Its one thing if its sent as a request more so of "we need plates and napkins for the class we would like to know if anyone would be willing to donate these items" I'd probably perk up and right away respond. But last minute? Yeah I'd be ticked off. Enough that I'd probably just send regular paper plates and white napkins that DH could get from work so that we didn't have to waste the gas to go to a store to get it last minute. 

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:04 PM
Call the teacher and say that. No biggie.

Quoting Anonymous:


It's a  big deal because not everyone has money laying around. BY the time I pay my monthly bills and buy things for  home I have like $2 left to my name.

Quoting kdizzlej:

DD had the same thing sent home but we needed to bring cheese cubes. I don't see what the big deal is.


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by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:04 PM
Omg its 5 figgin dollars.
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by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:05 PM

I would not be offended. I would get them if I could.

by Platinum Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:05 PM
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This sounds wonderful!

I just feel bad for embarrassing the parents that can't afford to do that.

I always donate extra for parties and field trips and etc, because I can.

But I just thought this was rude, especially 2 days before the party.

Quoting peachesforme:

I am a teacher, and I put a list on my door for whoever wants to sign up voluntarily.  Parents often come by since this is a preschool.  If no one brings in anything, then we just go without.  I cannot supply everything, I am by no means well off.  Luckily, I have very good parents this year. One parent actually gave me $15 to buy extra pizza for our Valentines party tomorrow.

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by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:05 PM
Then talk to the teacher about the wording on her request. Tell her it comes across as rude and you think it would be better if she asked rather than required.

Suggest a sign up sheet.

Quoting kappalopokis:

I made cookies, allergy safe for the kid that has allergies, bought cups, plates, and napkins. Zoo pals at that! And, am going in during their lunch to decorate.

I do participate, because I love my kid.

But my 5 year old shouldn't be required to provide anything. I should be requested to!

Quoting MumsTheWord571:


It amazes me the amount of parents who are unwilling to participate in their kids classes or send supplies or contribute in other ways.

And before you ask- I'm class mom for my sons class. So yes, not only do I send supplies and other necessities as requested but I also participate in the class.

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