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I know this sounds stupid but...

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My friend just really hurt my feelings.

She had asked yesterday if we wanted to go to the aquarium with her and her family. I told her I would talk to dh and let her know. 

Well we just got a puppy last month so she can't be left for more than a few hours. When we are going to be gone longer than that I have my mom (who lives right down the street) take her out for us.

Well my moms not around this weekend and the aquarium is over an hour away. I told my gf we couldn't go this weekend but maybe next weekend. She got SO mad!

She started going off, "why did you get that stupid fucking dog in the first place." "We are going this weekend, I'm not going to change my plans because you decided to get a dog" "I really wanted you guys to come with us but oh the joys of having a dog, now you guys can't do anything!!!"

Um...seriously?! I can't understand someone getting so upset about something like that. And not only that, but I freaking love my dog. We got her knowing that until she is older our social lives would be some what limited. 

Bitch needs to lighten up, part of me doesn't even want to talk to her anymore!

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:32 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:36 PM

Uh, yea ridiculous. And I don't want to sound like a weirdo but i really do love my dog and for her to talk so hateful towards the  pup really kinda hurt my feelings and pissed me off!

Quoting skittlefart:

Immature. She's probably on her rag. At least I hope she is...


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:37 PM

Exactly!!!!

Quoting JakobLukasMom:

Yeah, serious over-reaction. Tell her the dog is better company and less of a bitch than her...


dian0243
by Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:37 PM
1 mom liked this

2 words---"crate training."

mich.el.le
by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:37 PM

She was way over the top for flipping out on you like that, but I also don't think you should have said ''maybe next weekend'' as if she should change her plans around your dog.

mtdew
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:38 PM

Do you cancel plans with her alot?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:38 PM

I think that it must've been about more than the dog. Is it possible she's upset with you over something else?

HistoryNutty
by Ruby Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:39 PM
That would be like if a friend invited us out this weekend to some place near them, then getting angry when we decline. Even with them knowing full well they're in California and we're in Missouri.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:39 PM

Yea, I get what your saying. We haven't cancelled plans at all lately.  We do talk daily and for once she doesn't have a "world ending drama" going on in her life. I'm not going to end the friendship, it just hurt my feelings. And obviously she hates dogs or something so she wouldn't understand and it's not worth starting a fight over. Im just going to leave her be for a few days and see if she contacts me.

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

Is it possible something else is bothering her and she's just lashing out because it was easier to attack you and the dog than face her issue?  Have you canceled a lot of plans on her recently?

Try inviting her out at a time when you know the dog will be taken care of.

I don't think this one blow up is worth losing the friendship over.  I think she needs time to cool down, and then an understanding friend to ask what is really going on, kwim?


LilliesValley
by Ruby Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:39 PM
I don't get why she's upset. She offered, you declined and asked about a different date. No big deal no reason to go off on you.

Op we got a puppy in Dec, he's thee months old now and potty trained up to six to eight hours. Do you have s crate. That's how we trained our last two dogs and it workers great.

Dogs are a responsibility but puppy training is temporary. Your friends reaction could cause permanent friendships loss for her. Kind of silly.
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Saintsational
by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 1:39 PM

While I wouldn't have been as pissed as her I probably wouldn't have changed my plans to accommodate your dog either. I have a friend who plans her social life around her dog and it is annoying.

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