Kids in FT Daycare

[Anonymous]

Moms, if your children are in daycare full time, do you feel like you miss out on a lot?  That you don't see your kids enough?  That you're only a part time parent, if that?  That, maybe, it was pointless to have kids, as you see them so little?

We're friends with a couple who wants to have their third child. Their other two children are in daycare 50-55 hours each week.  I don't get the point of having another child that they'd never see.

Thoughts?

EDIT: Regarding kids in school- they aren't there for 11 hours daily, usually.  This couple drops their DDs off at 7:00am and picks them up at 6:00pm, occasionally 5:00pm.

EDIT 2: I see that some of you "ladies" have chosen to attack me personally instead of answering the above questions.  Stop being so easily offended.  If you have something valid to add about the topic, please do. Calling me judgemental or a bitch, and saying it's none of my business isn't adding anything to the conversation, whether or not it's true.  You're saying it just to make yourselves feel better.  Maybe you could actually try answering the questions?  

[Anonymous]

I pity you.  Your time will come to be judged.

[Anonymous]

do you feel like you miss out on a lot? Not really bc there is so much more to life than constantly up their little tushies

 That you don't see your kids enough? Yes, because the family time is more quality time seeing someone 24/7

 That you're only a part time parent, if that? It was said before that it takes a village to raise a child, so yeah that answers that.

 That, maybe, it was pointless to have kids, as you see them so little? Nope, bc the time that is spent with them is more meaningful and is a better quality of time.

Okay those answered so I can BITCH now =D

1.) Not your family, nor your business. I am sure your "friend" can judge you all day long too.

2.) If the family wants 5 more children that is their right to do so. Again refer to #1

3.) How do you know what benefits the children had received from being in a daycare. Most daycare places teaches children a daily lesson's they follow by.

4.) Refer to #1

5.) It is the same as a longer school day except more play time with their friends. They learn to be more independant earlier rather than waiting to learn at 5 years old. 

Again if anything is confusing you refer to #1.

See you questions were ansered and given you what all others think as well ;)

[MicheleJM]

People are probably attacking because your questions seem judgmental. You could have just said "how do you feel about daycare?" But you said do you feel like a part time parent? Its a leading question, and furthermore you are judging your friends. And also some moms feel guilty about daycare so of course they will be defensive. This is a very hot issue...you must have known drama was coming unless its your first post ever.

Quoting Anonymous:

Moms, if your children are in daycare full time, do you feel like you miss out on a lot?  That you don't see your kids enough?  That you're only a part time parent, if that?  That, maybe, it was pointless to have kids, as you see them so little?

We're friends with a couple who wants to have their third child. Their other two children are in daycare 50-55 hours each week.  I don't get the point of having another child that they'd never see.

Thoughts?

EDIT: Regarding kids in school- they aren't there for 11 hours daily, usually.  This couple drops their DDs off at 7:00am and picks them up at 6:00pm, occasionally 5:00pm.

EDIT 2: I see that some of you "ladies" have chosen to attack me personally instead of answering the above questions.  Stop being so easily offended.  If you have something valid to add about the topic, please do. Calling me judgemental or a bitch, and saying it's none of my business isn't adding anything to the conversation, whether or not it's true.  You're saying it just to make yourselves feel better.  Maybe you could actually try answering the questions?  

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

She's wrong. I didn't "like" the post. ;)

Quoting Evan1212:

R u sure u found out who the original poster is????? R u sure??? Wat if I am the poster wud u be like WTF? It cud be anyone who is defending this post. Think about that bfore u go and say that can't read my message I'll write it out for u.





Are you sure you found out who the original poster is?????? Are you sure??? What if I am the poster would you be like What The Fuck? It could be anyone who is defending this post. Think about that before you go and say that. Can't read my message I'll write it out for you.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's no wonder you haven't added any friends yet. Your so closed minded . Only a narcissist would like her own post. Yep I know who you are silly girl.

[Anonymous]

I suppose you're also anti abortion right? Don't kill your baby, but you don't have the right to do what you need to do to support your family.

I have to work full time in order to pay the bills and support my daughter. I don't have any support system where I live, I'm doing all of this on my own. No, I shouldn't have had a child when I wasn't ready. But it wasn't planned, and I wasn't going to kill my baby because of a mistake I made.

I love my daughter more than anything, but I have to do what I have to do.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

You're not remotely like the people I was describing. Your situation is completely different. No need to be so defensive.

Quoting Anonymous:

I suppose you're also anti abortion right? Don't kill your baby, but you don't have the right to do what you need to do to support your family.



I have to work full time in order to pay the bills and support my daughter. I don't have any support system where I live, I'm doing all of this on my own. No, I shouldn't have had a child when I wasn't ready. But it wasn't planned, and I wasn't going to kill my baby because of a mistake I made.



I love my daughter more than anything, but I have to do what I have to do.

[zebra99]

I wish my SO could be a stay at home dad so we wouldn't have to pay for day care but he can't because he'll be violating his court order if he does.