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On valentines day? Or never?

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First I want to say- I know when you start snooping you find things that you don't want to find but I've had a feeling for awhile that dh is hiding something from me. He always has his text messages and emails erased immediately.
Anyway, I got on his Facebook account from our home computer and found all his private messages deleted but some archived. These messages were from 6/2012 and I found two disturbing ones.
One was to an ex that he almost married. He gave her his phone number and told her to text him sometime. She asked him if I was ok with them texting and he told her that what i don't know wont hurt me. She told him that her dh wouldn't like it and that was the end of that conversation.

Second conversation was between him and his best friends ex wife. He told her that he should have been her boyfriend instead and that she should have given him a chance.

I need to approach him about this and I don't know if I can wait. I know it's valentines day but I'm so upset and need to get this off my chest.

What would you do in my shoes???
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 14, 2013 at 6:37 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:25 AM
We have AT&T. I looked back at the phone records for the last few months as the phone calls and text numbers show up on our bill. Nothing out of the ordinary there.


Quoting armywifey26:

If you have verizon you can get a copy of what numbers have been texted and how frequently. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:26 AM
Thank you :)


Quoting Lalalie:

I would discuss it immediately.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:28 AM

ive been in the=is same situation and i talked to him right away.

armywifey26
by Krissy on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:29 AM

So it is only those 2 FB messages? I just thought you might be suspicious of the texting as well since you mentioned that he has them erased immediately. 

Quoting Anonymous:

We have AT&T. I looked back at the phone records for the last few months as the phone calls and text numbers show up on our bill. Nothing out of the ordinary there.


Quoting armywifey26:

If you have verizon you can get a copy of what numbers have been texted and how frequently. 



Mamasgirl524
by Platinum Member on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:30 AM
Me too. I would be visibly upset anyway. He'd figure something out. I'm so sorry girl!

Quoting Anonymous:

I personally would talk to him about it right away.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:31 AM
Who cares if it Valentine's Day?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:34 AM


Quoting Anonymous:

I've looked over the last two months of phone records. These emails were from 6/2012 and nothing has been out if the ordinary that I found on his phone.


Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Anonymous:

I have the emails that were sent back and forth.





Quoting Anonymous:

I would talk to him right away doesn't matter what the day is. It needs to be figured out but I would also have proof in my hands, can you get phone records?



Super, but I would still see about finding phone records and see what #'s are being texted to . I can get our phone records & see who dh is texting just not what they say.


OK, but you said he always has his emails and texts deleted just throwing that option out there for you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:37 AM
He does. I just haven't been able to find anything on his texts or emails until now. I've looked for awhile now.


Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Anonymous:

I've looked over the last two months of phone records. These emails were from 6/2012 and nothing has been out if the ordinary that I found on his phone.





Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Anonymous:

I have the emails that were sent back and forth.








Quoting Anonymous:

I would talk to him right away doesn't matter what the day is. It needs to be figured out but I would also have proof in my hands, can you get phone records?




Super, but I would still see about finding phone records and see what #'s are being texted to . I can get our phone records & see who dh is texting just not what they say.



OK, but you said he always has his emails and texts deleted just throwing that option out there for you.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:42 AM


Quoting Anonymous:

He does. I just haven't been able to find anything on his texts or emails until now. I've looked for awhile now.


Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Anonymous:

I've looked over the last two months of phone records. These emails were from 6/2012 and nothing has been out if the ordinary that I found on his phone.





Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Anonymous:

I have the emails that were sent back and forth.








Quoting Anonymous:

I would talk to him right away doesn't matter what the day is. It needs to be figured out but I would also have proof in my hands, can you get phone records?




Super, but I would still see about finding phone records and see what #'s are being texted to . I can get our phone records & see who dh is texting just not what they say.



OK, but you said he always has his emails and texts deleted just throwing that option out there for you.


In that case I probably wouldn't say anything to him until you get more evidence. That was a while ago unless he has some other email he is using. Detective Wives club on here might help you out better. Good Luck Sweetie!

frzmamaof4
by Silver Member on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:44 AM
You should say something asap along with the evidence!! He's very shady to be writing other women to encourage them to be with him in the first place. I'd be pissed and wanting answers asap or he can hit the road!!
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