I realize that to a lot of lesbians that it doesn't matter what sexual organs you are using but the "connection" you have with someone.
Something to consider: If oral sex is considered taking virginity in the lesbian community, then does the same definition go for straight people? Same goes for using sex toys to "take" virginity.
Is there simply just different definitions for everyone's sexual preference or even a person to person definition?
What is your own definition of virginity in regards to the lesbian community and the straight community?