So DH works out of state on oil rigs, while I stay here and work full time and take care of 5 kids! Well we have had a rocky relationship for the past 2 years, and every time I decide I am done some big thing happens in our family and I stay longer. This last time was when his 6 yr old daughter got taken by the state from her mother and placed with us (thank god). So I stayed to take care of her.
Well he is always telling me everything is my fault etc. and he is always miserable and I can hardly talk to him without him being upset about something. Well every Christmas and his birthday he acts like a big baby if he doesnt get a gift from me, so at Christmas even though I couldnt afford it I bought him a $400 rifle. Well my birthday was last month and I never even got a card from him! Today I have talked to him 2 times and he has not even mentioned Valentines day. He used to send me flowers or cards etc. But what bugs me the most is that SD's 6th birthday was yesterday and he didnt even talk to her to tell her happy birthday. He is on his week off but he said he is broke and can not afford to come home this week. Well he just got $2500 back from Child support that he had paid for SD, but since we have her they sent it back. He could still come home for a few days! So then I also asked him this morning if I had a birthday party for SD at the bowling ally with pizza and bowling if he could help me pay for it (because I dont have access to HIS money) he say "Oh here we go I get this money and now you want to spend it. I really dont want to give you money to listen to the kids bitch because they think they need an endless supply of quarters to play the arcade games" WTF seriously dude she is your daughter and you are not here to listen to the other kids bitch!!! He hasnt offerd to give me $ to help giver her gifts nothing!!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH WTF
These are not the only things obviously our relationship is strained and he is an ass this is just the tip of what has been going on. I want to leave but I dont want to leave SD and I dont know how!!!