Got "the other woman" call 3 days ago and this is the first time I will see him since then
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I got a call from the gf of a guy I work with. He and I are friends and since we met a year ago he has always been very attracted to me and even gone so far as to kiss me when we were out with a group of friends and he was really drunk. He texts me a lot and even though his gf found out about the kiss and demanded that he stop texting and calling me and hitting on me at work, he has persisted. She has come into our work when he and I are working together and sat around talking shit about me. I have ignored it in order to be professional.
He is in a position of authority to me in addition to being a friend so I have not tried to get him in trouble for it nor have I acted like a bitch to him. Apparently she called and told him that she wouldnt be home for awhile on the 10th and when she looked at his phone calls, he had changed my name in his phone and had texted me 5 minutes after they had gotten off the phone asking me what I was up to and stuff. I told him I was studying. the conversation was innocent but she was pissed because she has told him he's not allowed to talk to me outside of work. And that I was the first person he went to when she said she wasn't coming home soon. She wanted me to know, basically, that she knows I'm coming after her man and that she's not stepping aside so I can take him. I explained to her that I am in a relationship of my own right now and that I don't want her bf for anything more than a coworker and friend.
We ended up talking for an hour and a half and basically she had gotten angry with him about texting me and yelled at him about it and he had said he was packing his shit and leaving. She had a lot of questions for me and I tried to be as truthful with her as possible without being extremely hurtful. I told her that I didn't think he respected her and that even if I was out of the picture it would be somebody else. I did not tell her about the time he texted me saying he just wanted to fuck my brains out. I agreed to not tell him she had called me, since she didn't want him to know and I agreed to tell him to stop texting and calling me outside of work. I honestly never thought I would get "that" call. It was weird as hell. But it made me realize, that calling the other woman really will do nothing. The man is acting a certain way and if it's not with that woman it will be with another one. At least in this situation that was the case. I feel bad for her.
I will be seeing him tonight at work and I'm kind of nervous about it. I don't think I've really handled anything about this situation in the "right" way but I don't really know what the right way is either.
I would just tell him she called. He is your friend, your loyalties are to him first.
You do not need to be in his. Nobody got time for that
um, yeah?? Why? It's not like I AM the other woman. I am not sleeping with him, I have never made a move on him, I have just played his advances off like jokes in order to keep my work atmoshpere from becoming hostile because I pissed off my assistant manager (which is what he is). That's the only thing that I'm wrong for doing, I'm sure that there is some more morally correct way that I should have handled it, but I have kids to take care of and cant be risking my job to make a stand like that.
Quoting Mocking.Jay:
And you're a mother?....
Yep this sums it up.
Quoting Sassy762:
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!