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What do you think about schools that are changing or banning traditional Valentine's Day celebrations?

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Schools Replace Valentine's Day With Friendship Parties & Where's the Fun in That?

Posted by Ericka Sóuter on February 14, 2013

A lot of things have changed since the time we were kids. There are about a million cable channels, cartoons on 24 hours a day, and don't get me started on iPads so user-friendly toddlers own them. But some things have changed that I never thought would. Specifically, Valentine's Day. These days, traditional Valentine's celebrations are being replaced with "Friendship Parties" in some schools and others are even banning the festivities completely.

For some kids, gone are the days of buying those cute little Snoopy or Spider-Man Valentine's cards, then filling them out for each kid in the class. I remember being so excited about handing them out and getting a stack of my own in return. Some years, the teacher would ask us to bring in shoe boxes to decorate with hearts and things in order to collect our cupid-inspired haul.

But this year, 24 schools across the country are experimenting with Friendship Parties instead. The goal is to encourage kids to be good to their friends and talk about caring and sharing. They still acknowledge that it is Valentine's Day, said one principal, but they make the day about recognizing each other as friends and how we should treat our friends.

I think that is a very wonderful and admirable notion -- but isn't that something schools should be encouraging every day anyway? I like the idea of an old-fashioned Valentine's party with the room decorated with red hearts and heart-shaped cookies and candy treats being passed around. Not because it encourages romance or love, per se. It's just a fun, colorful, and sweet holiday to share with our kids.

But I have to say, these friendship parties are better than nothing. There are some schools that don't even acknowledge the day at all. My son is in one of them. They actually don't celebrate any holiday there. When I first heard this, I was totally taken by surprise. My heart ached a little knowing that he would never walk in the door with a card he made for mommy for Mother's Day, Valentine's Day, or Christmas. In every other way, it is the perfect place for little kids to learn and grow. But in the end, I realized that just because a school doesn't do it doesn't mean we can't celebrate the day ourselves. So when these holidays come around, we put on our own cookie decorating party and invite his classmates over. It may not be as great as the school parties that I remember, but it still makes the day special for him.

What do you think about schools that are changing or banning traditional Valentine's Day celebrations?

by on Feb. 14, 2013 at 3:37 PM
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KyrinM
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:01 AM
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I think it is bullshit, they keep taking the fun stuff away.  The took Halloween out of school too, no one gets to dress up anymore, it is just a regular day, it sucks.  I remember how fun it was, the teachers & all of us would dress up & the whole school was a party that day, now, boring same as any other day.  Why, because some people don't celebrate it, yeah, so what, that is has always been true.  But now we have to be PC about it & take it away from everyone else!  My kids are missing out on all that fun stuff.  Makes me mad.

dee1603
by Gold Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:03 AM
They've banned Christmas, why not valentines day? I'm sure there is some kid whose parent will be offended by it. Gotta please them!! Smdh
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dee1603
by Gold Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:04 AM
I am sad that dd doesn't get to do the fun stuff. :(

Quoting KyrinM:

I think it is bullshit, they keep taking the fun stuff away.  The took Halloween out of school too, no one gets to dress up anymore, it is just a regular day, it sucks.  I remember how fun it was, the teachers & all of us would dress up & the whole school was a party that day, now, boring same as any other day.  Why, because some people don't celebrate it, yeah, so what, that is has always been true.  But now we have to be PC about it & take it away from everyone else!  My kids are missing out on all that fun stuff.  Makes me mad.

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SwtSnowflake2
by Gold Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:13 AM
I never understood that. The Jewish faith passing through the mom. Is it only practicing or non practicing? My mom said I'm part Jewish bc her mom was etc. But we don't practice the faith.

Quoting TerriAnne2606:

Well.. we are Jewish and I was a bit stunned to realize they don't celebrate Valentine's Day as I never really associated it with a particular faith or religion despite the fact I realize / know WHAT and WHO it was named after.  I had even ordered some ADORABLE Valentine's cards.  Now what do I do with them?? LOL

For those that are wondering - I converted after I met my husband.  Took me a while, but prior to our daughter being born, I completed the classes and finalized everything.  The Jewish faith passes through the mom.  

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EarlGrayHot
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:27 AM

A special party here and there makes school enjoyable.  However, I can still recall how some kids were hurt because they didn't get many or even any cards.  That can hurt at that age.

TerriAnne2606
by Silver Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:29 AM

I'm probably not the best person to ask that question to because there's still SO much I feel I don't know.  But, I think (and I'll probably be ripped a new one) that you are Jewish because your mother would have been Jewish making you Jewish.  Even if you are not a practacing Jew.  

Quoting SwtSnowflake2:

I never understood that. The Jewish faith passing through the mom. Is it only practicing or non practicing? My mom said I'm part Jewish bc her mom was etc. But we don't practice the faith.

Quoting TerriAnne2606:

Well.. we are Jewish and I was a bit stunned to realize they don't celebrate Valentine's Day as I never really associated it with a particular faith or religion despite the fact I realize / know WHAT and WHO it was named after.  I had even ordered some ADORABLE Valentine's cards.  Now what do I do with them?? LOL

For those that are wondering - I converted after I met my husband.  Took me a while, but prior to our daughter being born, I completed the classes and finalized everything.  The Jewish faith passes through the mom.  



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