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DD's teacher ignored... *edited*

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My daughter is sensitive to red dye. It makes her crazy. It makes her hyperactive & emotional as all get out. It brings about tantrums and is just generally unpleasant. Any amount of it seems to set her off. We've discussed this with her teacher (who has seen what it does to her) and requested she not give her food or drinks containing it. Today, being Valentine's day, we knew her class would be filled with it. We sent apple juice, rice krispy treats and cookies that she could have. We even sent a bag of dye free lolly pops, in case they had candy in class. When I picked DD up today the teacher said "DD did really well today. She said you told her she could have a little bit if red dye so she just chose a few of her favorites." I was LIVID. I get my kid lied and I dealt with that but she believed a 5 year old. If I say my kid can't have something don't you think it's common sense to check before believing (in the face of temptation) that something changed? I know it's not an allergy in a medical sense and no health problems follow a slip up but the teachers irresponsibility has me so mad. DH says I need to let it go but I really want to schedule a conference and tell the teacher how angry I am and how wrong she was. What if it could have had medical consequences? we trust this lady to keep her safe. if it were your kid what would you do?

*edit* The red dye allergy, along with several other food allergies are on her medical forms, on file at the school. We send lunch, snacks, treats etc so the teacher doesn't have to read labels and guess. My daughter was in the wrong for lying and faced several consequences for it. Believe me, little bit answered for her part in things. She had to write a note to the teacher admitting that she did not tell the truth, explain what prompted her to lie and tell how she could be assured she wouldn't do so again. She had to sit out at our Valentines tea party this evening too. This mama doesn't mess around with lying. The reason I am upset is I feel like the teacher who I trust and pay to supervise my child failed to do so. Fortunately this allergy wasn't deadly, for her, others could be.
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by on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:04 PM
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by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:29 PM
I am the original one. I'm just cranky tonight sorry. Plus the peanut post this morning made my head hurt.
The prednazone was what he was prescribed he's my middle child anyways so he's naturally a little cray cray but those steroids made him a monster. I brought him back in the doctor's like oh yea lots of parents refuse it because of the side effects.

Quoting Anonymous:

YES!!! One of mine was prescribed those for a cough also....Oh man, I didn't know.....and it was terrible! You could tell she didn't want to act the way she was strange.

Not sure if you're the original one, and I wasn't trying to be rude but SO many people don't believe us about the red dye thing...until they SEE it. Then they understand.

Quoting Anonymous:

My son was a monster for a week while he was on steriods for croup. He was a maniac. I had no clue steriods caused that until I brought him back in. I'm like he's an emotional nut he was running from me screaming crying bug eyed everywhere all at once. I get it.

Quoting Anonymous:

My children also have a red dye allergy and it's a bitch to deal with. You clearly have no idea.

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh boy here we go again. So was she a raging little princess when she got home?

by Anonymous 13 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:29 PM
Wtf ever
More of our privileged ways . . Nobody taking responsibility for their own actions. You should punish your dd for lieing.
by on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:30 PM

Bummer that it happened, hopefully it doesn't happen again. 

Quoting WithHope:

Yes, it is on her allergy form and has been discussed at conference. We told her that to simplify things we would provide all food she could have.

Quoting krazykiddles:

Your daughter lied and the teacher had no reason not to believe her.  Did you give the teacher and school a note from the doctor about this allergy?  If not the blame is on you and your daughter.  It is a holiday that you were aware of the red dye being around her today so I would have had it in writing.  If there isn't a note or picture it isn't a problem.

by Anonymous 14 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:30 PM
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My DD is also sensitive to red dye.  But we've learned to let it go.  I understand your irritation with the teacher not following your wishes.  You should really write it down for them and get her tested medically so you can get a doctor note for the school.

I'm sure you already know that food dye is in just about everything from yogurt to toothpaste to hair product, so you should understand that she will be exposed and will consume it at some point.

Just be glad there isn't a medical consequence and get past it.  Plus, limiting her to none is going to make her want it that much more.

by Anonymous 15 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:30 PM

Chill........its not an allergy, you're just being overly obsessive with what your dd eats........if shes fine...then really, chill the fuck out, no need to be such a helicopter.

by Gold Member on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:30 PM

I think it's understandable. Twenty-five kids in the classroom hyped up on sugar, and the teacher probably just figured you said yes because it was a special occasion. 

by on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:31 PM
I can deal with the hyperactivity. There's 3 kids of my own (and often other rugrats) in my house, that's just a given. It's the sobbing over an untied shoe, and the crying that her hair hurts that I don't want to deal with. And i shouldn't have to. We've taken plenty of steps to avoid it. doctors appointments, behavior therapy and teacher conferences. We're a disciplined household, I just don't like my daughter unnecessarily miserable.

Quoting Anonymous:

To me its not a big deal...I honestly don't believe in that red dye is the cause of children acting like brats. Lack of discipline though definately is the the cause. Had my DD lied to the teacher I would be upset with her and not the teacher. My DD would be punished and would be apologizing to the teacher for being a liar

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by Anonymous 7 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:32 PM

Darlin, here's you a little info on the difference.

Quoting Anonymous:

You're an idiot. It most certainly is an allergy..that or my kids' pediatrician isn't knowledgable. Get your facts straight.


Quoting Anonymous:

Drop it. It's not an allergy. I'm sure you just didn't want ot deal with a hyper kid.




by Anonymous 14 on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:32 PM

Everyone posting needs to stop being stupid about an "allergy".  Your kids don't have allergies unless their throats are closing up and they have a serious physical reaction.  They have sensitivites.  If you don't know the difference then I don't believe a word of it. 

by Ruby Member on Feb. 14, 2013 at 7:32 PM

I'm curious as to why you didn't address this with the teacher on the spot if you are so bothered by it? Your kid lied, and yeah, you handled it. should've called the kid out in front of the teacher, then let the teacher know that ANY red dye is unacceptable, and being an adult, she should've known not to go on the word of a small child without a note from home or a phone call to confirm.

Adult fail in both directions.

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