i dont believe in domestic infant adoption ETA 1 and 2

[theCMtroll82]

I don't believe in it anymore. It's a bunch of people in a business to make money off of other people's pain. SOME adoptive mothers are so desperate to get a baby they will do or say ANYTHING to get their hands on a child, then after they do they don't follow through with anything. as a BM myself I was a total idiot to believe what a few people told me. I would never do it again. I recommend keeping your child if at all possible. take it from me, it sucks. That's my statement for the day.

thanks for reading. I think most of my problem is with the system itself, and not actually adoption. I think there needs to be a lot of change with it, but thats JMO. Kudos to the many women out there who have adopted a child and kept in touch with the BM.  

change of title- i dont hate foster care or foreign adoption. im sorry to those who i offended, in particular to the anon i was rather harsh with.

[theCMtroll82]

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[AliKatAK47]

Meh. I don't believe in adopting from the mother because I wouldn't want her in my life. My girls were dumped on me by their father but I adopted them from the state.

[Anonymous]

I was adopted and believe it's one of the most selfess acts a parent can do for their child. Yes it's a business so is abortion. smh

[RightSock]

I am glad my in-laws adopted. I might not have met my dh if they had not. FIL is adopted.

[notjstanothrmom]

So it's not adoption you don't believe in, it's the system.

The system needs a MAJOR rehaul. For example, if you agree to an open adoption, the ONLY person that should be able to choose to close it should be the birth parent or the courts if they decide that the birth parents are seriously detrimental to the child.

[JerseyAirGurl]

Adoption isn't for everyone. Also def would never suggest to everyone to avoid adoption at all costs... It actually is a blessing for many... Both sides of the process.

[ColleenF30]

I agree on the money making. My bf is adopted. A followup visit would have prevented a lot of the abuse he dealt with.

[o.0]

did your child get placed in an abusive home?

[theCMtroll82]

it is a blessing for some, but it was a real eye opener seeing how many blood sucking attorneys and leeches there are. they will do ANYTHING legal to make it happen.

Quoting JerseyAirGurl:

Adoption isn't for everyone. Also def would never suggest to everyone to avoid adoption at all costs... It actually is a blessing for many... Both sides of the process.

[edelweiss23]

If my birth mom had kept me, I have no doubt I would be dead.

I was born addicted to alcohol, meth, cocaine and heroin. My adoptive mom was the one who held me as I was going through withdrawals in the hospital.

My bio mom had nothing to do with me until she needed something. Her kidneys and liver are failing from all her years of drug and alcohol abuse, and she thinks that just because she and I share DNA, that she is entitled to part of my liver. Hell no!!!!


The only people I would donate for are my adoptive parents, siblings and my husband.