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My in laws want us to pay for the medical expenses FIL incurred because our dog bit him and I am refusing EDIT

Anonymous
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This is Gretta, she is part lab, pit and Austrailian Shepard

Why, because I TOLD FIL not to pick up the baby. The dog, Gretta, who is very well trained has taken it upon herself to be my 2 month olds personal bodyguard. She is fine with me, DH and anyone she knows picking up the baby but if it's someone she doesn't know, she doesn't  like it, she thinks they are trying to hurt the baby.


If I put the baby in his seat, she goes and sits right next to him, if he takes a nap, she goes and lays next to his bassinet. She has NEVER been aggressive with the baby or anyone, she is sweet as she can be and very well trained. She is 5 years old and I have had her since she was 8 weeks old.

Now Gretta doesn't know FIL because MIL is allergic to dogs so anytime they come over, we put her in our bedroom (Gretta, not MIL). Yesterday, FIL came over without MIL (MIL was at work) to see the baby. I offered FIL a drink, he asked for a tea and I went to get it. Before I left the room, the baby was sleeping in his seat, I told FIL just go ahead and sit down, I'll get the baby for you in a second, Gretta doesn't like it when people she doesn't know go for the baby. Gretta growled, I heard her from the kitchen so I ran out and said "no, don't do it she will bite" He said, "I'll be fine" and he wasn't, he got too close, didn't heed the growling and she bit him. He needed 4 stitches on his hand. The only reason it wasn't worse was because I yelled "heel" to Gretta and she stopped right away.

DH was home during the whole thing, in our room taking a nap, he heard Gretta growl and came running, knowing something was wrong.

At first FIL said he was calling animal control and going to have her put down. Animal control contacted us and said that because she did growl first and he was warned about he trigger behavior (going for the baby) they aren't going to do anything to the dog. Nor can he sue us as he also threatened.

FIL's medical insurance has a $500 co pay for an ER visit and he wants us to pay for it. HELL NO, he was told not to and he did it anyway, he can pay for it himself.

For those saying he could sue because it's my dog, in my state at least, you are wrong. The person from animal control told me, and I confirmed it with an attorney, that because I warned FIL not to go near the baby with the dog there, him doing so was at his own risk. He can't turn around and sue over it (and what kind of person threatens to sue their son and DDIL anyway? but he did)

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:04 PM
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skyelyns_mommie
by Gold Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:07 PM
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I agree with you. It was his fault
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iHEAVENn
by Silver Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:08 PM

I agree. If you told him the dog would bite if he reached for the baby he should have listened. Heck my cat was very protective of our son when we brought him home. She would lunge at any one in the house unless they were introduced to her (the cat) first before they got to hold the baby. 

Lizardannie1966
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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I'm on the fence.

Your FIL was warned by you and by the dog, yet ignored it. The responsibility of what happened to him rests with your FIL.

However, this man is family and while he should have listened, I would still offer to pay something toward that co-payment. Otherwise, this is going to get ugly quickly.

Maybe instead of both of you--the FIL and yourselves--holding your ground so firmly, try meeting in the middle on this.

Greta sounds very sweet but honestly, unless she can learn not to be SO protective of the baby, you may be looking ahead to further issues like this one or worse.

Bird16_J
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:09 PM
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what a fucking moron! When a dog growls at you that means STOP what you're doing!!! What a fucking dumbass!!! I'd tell him to fuck off and not come over ever again if he can't listen!!! What kind of dog is she? Sounds like you guys trained her really well! :)


MrsErdos2011
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:09 PM

It was his own fault. He should have listened to you and the dog.

catrig
by Platinum Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:11 PM
I agree with you.
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Luna091306
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:12 PM

 His fault.

KristenFowles
by Ruby Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:12 PM
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 No, you don't have to pay it.

He was told not to touch the baby.  The DOG warned him as well.  He did it anyway.  It's his fault, not Gretta's.

TiffanyRose06
by Queso<3 on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:13 PM
His fault, plain and simple. Maybe next time he'll listen
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM
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The vet said that very well trained and loyal dogs are often like this, especially with the first baby, it usually calms down after a few months


Quoting Lizardannie1966:

I'm on the fence.

Your FIL was warned by you and by the dog, yet ignored it. The responsibility of what happened to him rests with your FIL.

However, this man is family and while he should have listened, I would still offer to pay something toward that co-payment. Otherwise, this is going to get ugly quickly.

Maybe instead of both of you--the FIL and yourselves--holding your ground so firmly, try meeting in the middle on this.

Greta sounds very sweet but honestly, unless she can learn not to be SO protective of the baby, you may be looking ahead to further issues like this one or worse.



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