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My in laws want us to pay for the medical expenses FIL incurred because our dog bit him and I am refusing EDIT

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This is Gretta, she is part lab, pit and Austrailian Shepard

Why, because I TOLD FIL not to pick up the baby. The dog, Gretta, who is very well trained has taken it upon herself to be my 2 month olds personal bodyguard. She is fine with me, DH and anyone she knows picking up the baby but if it's someone she doesn't know, she doesn't  like it, she thinks they are trying to hurt the baby.

If I put the baby in his seat, she goes and sits right next to him, if he takes a nap, she goes and lays next to his bassinet. She has NEVER been aggressive with the baby or anyone, she is sweet as she can be and very well trained. She is 5 years old and I have had her since she was 8 weeks old.

Now Gretta doesn't know FIL because MIL is allergic to dogs so anytime they come over, we put her in our bedroom (Gretta, not MIL). Yesterday, FIL came over without MIL (MIL was at work) to see the baby. I offered FIL a drink, he asked for a tea and I went to get it. Before I left the room, the baby was sleeping in his seat, I told FIL just go ahead and sit down, I'll get the baby for you in a second, Gretta doesn't like it when people she doesn't know go for the baby. Gretta growled, I heard her from the kitchen so I ran out and said "no, don't do it she will bite" He said, "I'll be fine" and he wasn't, he got too close, didn't heed the growling and she bit him. He needed 4 stitches on his hand. The only reason it wasn't worse was because I yelled "heel" to Gretta and she stopped right away.

DH was home during the whole thing, in our room taking a nap, he heard Gretta growl and came running, knowing something was wrong.

At first FIL said he was calling animal control and going to have her put down. Animal control contacted us and said that because she did growl first and he was warned about he trigger behavior (going for the baby) they aren't going to do anything to the dog. Nor can he sue us as he also threatened.

FIL's medical insurance has a $500 co pay for an ER visit and he wants us to pay for it. HELL NO, he was told not to and he did it anyway, he can pay for it himself.

For those saying he could sue because it's my dog, in my state at least, you are wrong. The person from animal control told me, and I confirmed it with an attorney, that because I warned FIL not to go near the baby with the dog there, him doing so was at his own risk. He can't turn around and sue over it (and what kind of person threatens to sue their son and DDIL anyway? but he did)

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:04 PM
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by Ruby Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM
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You're liable legally.  It was your dog in your home.  Hope he doesn't sue you.

by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM
His fault, but the courts would rule in his favor.
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM

I agree. He was warned by you and your dog. I went to visit my family in Florida and they had a dog, a big dog. and after she met me and my son, and was ok with us, she became ds bodyguard for those 2 weeks, it was so funny, ds was crying one night and she rushed out of the bed room looked at me like "baby's crying, fix it." I told her i was working on it and she went back into the room to keep an eye on him. 

by Gold Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM
Technically if his injuries were caused by YOUR dog then if they wanted they could sue you to pay the bills and in turn chances are they would win.
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by Ruby Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM
Ya his fault!
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by Sapphire Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM
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While I agree with you I think you should reconsider paying half of the bill as a goodwill gesture with the understanding that next time he does something foolish you will not be helping.
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by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM
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People with dogs that growl and/or bite should keep them locked away when having company over. Show up unannounced? Still immediately put said dog away. Not that hard. Our dog is a bundle of sweetness, but she tends to get up in the lap of company so we keep her put away when we have someone over. 

by Chunk on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM
You warned him and he went over your did he not think he was going to get bit by a growling dog? You don't owe him nothing,he failed to follow your instructions.
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by Silver Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM

 yep, i agree w/this

Quoting Lizardannie1966:

I'm on the fence.

Your FIL was warned by you and by the dog, yet ignored it. The responsibility of what happened to him rests with your FIL.

However, this man is family and while he should have listened, I would still offer to pay something toward that co-payment. Otherwise, this is going to get ugly quickly.

Maybe instead of both of you--the FIL and yourselves--holding your ground so firmly, try meeting in the middle on this.

Greta sounds very sweet but honestly, unless she can learn not to be SO protective of the baby, you may be looking ahead to further issues like this one or worse.


by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:14 PM
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Thank you, I added a picture of her. She is a good girl, she was like my baby before I had DS

Quoting Bird16_J:

what a fucking moron! When a dog growls at you that means STOP what you're doing!!! What a fucking dumbass!!! I'd tell him to fuck off and not come over ever again if he can't listen!!! What kind of dog is she? Sounds like you guys trained her really well! :)

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