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My in laws want us to pay for the medical expenses FIL incurred because our dog bit him and I am refusing EDIT

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This is Gretta, she is part lab, pit and Austrailian Shepard

Why, because I TOLD FIL not to pick up the baby. The dog, Gretta, who is very well trained has taken it upon herself to be my 2 month olds personal bodyguard. She is fine with me, DH and anyone she knows picking up the baby but if it's someone she doesn't know, she doesn't  like it, she thinks they are trying to hurt the baby.

If I put the baby in his seat, she goes and sits right next to him, if he takes a nap, she goes and lays next to his bassinet. She has NEVER been aggressive with the baby or anyone, she is sweet as she can be and very well trained. She is 5 years old and I have had her since she was 8 weeks old.

Now Gretta doesn't know FIL because MIL is allergic to dogs so anytime they come over, we put her in our bedroom (Gretta, not MIL). Yesterday, FIL came over without MIL (MIL was at work) to see the baby. I offered FIL a drink, he asked for a tea and I went to get it. Before I left the room, the baby was sleeping in his seat, I told FIL just go ahead and sit down, I'll get the baby for you in a second, Gretta doesn't like it when people she doesn't know go for the baby. Gretta growled, I heard her from the kitchen so I ran out and said "no, don't do it she will bite" He said, "I'll be fine" and he wasn't, he got too close, didn't heed the growling and she bit him. He needed 4 stitches on his hand. The only reason it wasn't worse was because I yelled "heel" to Gretta and she stopped right away.

DH was home during the whole thing, in our room taking a nap, he heard Gretta growl and came running, knowing something was wrong.

At first FIL said he was calling animal control and going to have her put down. Animal control contacted us and said that because she did growl first and he was warned about he trigger behavior (going for the baby) they aren't going to do anything to the dog. Nor can he sue us as he also threatened.

FIL's medical insurance has a $500 co pay for an ER visit and he wants us to pay for it. HELL NO, he was told not to and he did it anyway, he can pay for it himself.

For those saying he could sue because it's my dog, in my state at least, you are wrong. The person from animal control told me, and I confirmed it with an attorney, that because I warned FIL not to go near the baby with the dog there, him doing so was at his own risk. He can't turn around and sue over it (and what kind of person threatens to sue their son and DDIL anyway? but he did)

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:04 PM
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by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:17 PM
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I disagree. You knew your dog didn't like visitors so you had an obligation to keep your visitors safe from your dog.

And yes, your FIL can sue you and will most likely win a judgement because you didn't control a dog you knew was dangerous.  The courts don't look at how warm and fuzzy your dog is because he was protecting your baby. They will only look at how a person was injured by an animal that was known to be dangerous.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:17 PM

Once someone is warned not to do something, they are on their own when it comes to dogs, at least that is how it is in my state.

Quoting Tiff_R_92:

Technically if his injuries were caused by YOUR dog then if they wanted they could sue you to pay the bills and in turn chances are they would win.

by Ruby Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:18 PM

Quoting Anonymous:

Because he was warned not to, and he even admits that, he can't do anything. It's like a person breaking into your backyard if you have a beware of dog sign and then suing you for any damages the dog it. Once you warn someone, they are on their own, at least in my state.

Quoting ElitestJen:

You're liable legally.  It was your dog in your home.  Hope he doesn't sue you.

LOL!  Yeah....hope he doesn't sue you.   You'd lose.

by Leah on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:18 PM


by Ruby Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:18 PM
I agree with you. Our dogs are the same way about me and the girls. Me and dh were in the kitchen once and he kept smacking my ass in front of the back door and the dogs were not happy about it lol. They thought he was hurting me.
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by Platinum Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:18 PM
I agree.

Quoting Lizardannie1966:

I'm on the fence.

Your FIL was warned by you and by the dog, yet ignored it. The responsibility of what happened to him rests with your FIL.

However, this man is family and while he should have listened, I would still offer to pay something toward that co-payment. Otherwise, this is going to get ugly quickly.

Maybe instead of both of you--the FIL and yourselves--holding your ground so firmly, try meeting in the middle on this.

Greta sounds very sweet but honestly, unless she can learn not to be SO protective of the baby, you may be looking ahead to further issues like this one or worse.

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:19 PM
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No, my dog is well behaved and shouldn't have to be locked away in MY home because FIL can't do as I requested when it comes to my baby. My dog lives here, he doesn't.

Quoting lilyismyheart:

People with dogs that growl and/or bite should keep them locked away when having company over. Show up unannounced? Still immediately put said dog away. Not that hard. Our dog is a bundle of sweetness, but she tends to get up in the lap of company so we keep her put away when we have someone over. 

by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:19 PM

What kind of parents expect you to pay for their medical bills? I agree with you no you should not have to pay, I also understand where it is a good gesture to pay some of it since it was YOUR dog.

But where is the good in them asking you  to pay in the first fucking place?

by Platinum Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:20 PM

It's his fault, no question about it. He ignored what you said, ignored the dogs warning and then threatened to have the dog put down and sue you because he apparently can't listen. I personally would not allow him back into the house or to see my child until I got an apology as well. Of course, I have no tolerance for people like that. They do whatever even after being told not to, then flail around about how it's everyone's fault but their own. When you don't listen you face consequences.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:20 PM

Thank you

Quoting Jessy613:

She is really cute !

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