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My in laws want us to pay for the medical expenses FIL incurred because our dog bit him and I am refusing EDIT

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This is Gretta, she is part lab, pit and Austrailian Shepard

Why, because I TOLD FIL not to pick up the baby. The dog, Gretta, who is very well trained has taken it upon herself to be my 2 month olds personal bodyguard. She is fine with me, DH and anyone she knows picking up the baby but if it's someone she doesn't know, she doesn't  like it, she thinks they are trying to hurt the baby.

If I put the baby in his seat, she goes and sits right next to him, if he takes a nap, she goes and lays next to his bassinet. She has NEVER been aggressive with the baby or anyone, she is sweet as she can be and very well trained. She is 5 years old and I have had her since she was 8 weeks old.

Now Gretta doesn't know FIL because MIL is allergic to dogs so anytime they come over, we put her in our bedroom (Gretta, not MIL). Yesterday, FIL came over without MIL (MIL was at work) to see the baby. I offered FIL a drink, he asked for a tea and I went to get it. Before I left the room, the baby was sleeping in his seat, I told FIL just go ahead and sit down, I'll get the baby for you in a second, Gretta doesn't like it when people she doesn't know go for the baby. Gretta growled, I heard her from the kitchen so I ran out and said "no, don't do it she will bite" He said, "I'll be fine" and he wasn't, he got too close, didn't heed the growling and she bit him. He needed 4 stitches on his hand. The only reason it wasn't worse was because I yelled "heel" to Gretta and she stopped right away.

DH was home during the whole thing, in our room taking a nap, he heard Gretta growl and came running, knowing something was wrong.

At first FIL said he was calling animal control and going to have her put down. Animal control contacted us and said that because she did growl first and he was warned about he trigger behavior (going for the baby) they aren't going to do anything to the dog. Nor can he sue us as he also threatened.

FIL's medical insurance has a $500 co pay for an ER visit and he wants us to pay for it. HELL NO, he was told not to and he did it anyway, he can pay for it himself.

For those saying he could sue because it's my dog, in my state at least, you are wrong. The person from animal control told me, and I confirmed it with an attorney, that because I warned FIL not to go near the baby with the dog there, him doing so was at his own risk. He can't turn around and sue over it (and what kind of person threatens to sue their son and DDIL anyway? but he did)

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:04 PM
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by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:29 PM

Sounds like FIL learn a lesson the hard way and now needs to pay for it. You shouldn't be held responsible for his choice to not listen.

by Silver Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:29 PM
Home insurance doesn't cover the medical expenses?
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by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:30 PM
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 I think it's horrible that you have a vicious animal near your child.  You obviously have no control over who the dog attacks.  Even though the dog saw your guest in your house she still attacked.

I would never trust that dog around any guest in my home and I would crate the dog whenever having guests.


I would pay for the bills if I were you.  It was your pet that attacked after not being restrained or trained.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:30 PM

To sue the homeowner's insurance, there has to be at least $1000 worth of damage, he only had to pay $500 (they don't care about pain and suffering). He can't sue me, according to the people at animal control and the attorney I called because he was warned.

Quoting just_hc:

You are legally liable.   Sorry, he will win if he sues you.    You can simply turn this in as a homeowners claim and they will pay his expenses.   

by Platinum Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:30 PM
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My dog is protective of my kids but she is trained well enough I can call her off and she won't bite. I wouldn't have a dog in my house that I couldn't control. I agree it was in part his fault but that dog bites the wrong person and you could very well lose her. It happened to my sister. Her dog bit the next door neighbor. The guy was snooping around the front yard, claimed he was looking for his puppy, and my sisters dog was taken in for observation for 10 days and was told if happened again, she'd be euthanized. 

by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:31 PM

Quoting skyelyns_mommie:

I agree with you. It was his fault

by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:31 PM
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That may be.  But by warning FIL that the dog will bite she acknowledged that it was dangerous.  Any decent lawyer can argue this one.

Quoting bmw29:

Not everywhere. In NC the rule is as follows...

North Carolina Dog Bite Law

North Carolina is known as a "one-free-bite" state. This means that if your attack was the dog's first, the owner basically gets a free pass. The narrow exception is if the dog was more than six months old and left intentionally loose to run "at large" at night.

If a dog has previously bitten someone or has otherwise qualified for labeling by local animal control officials as a "potentially dangerous" dog, then you, as a dog bite victim in North Carolina, may have a better shot at recovering your medical and dog bite-related costs. A dog can be labeled potentially dangerous if he or she:

  • Has terrorized a person while off the owner''s property
  • Has killed or seriously injured another animal while on the owner''s property
  • Has bitten a person,resulting in broken bones or disfiguring lacerations requiring plastic surgery or hospitalization

A dog owner is subject to potential misdemeanor fines if his or her dog has been declared potentially dangerous and causes injuries requiring medical treatment in excess of $100.

Quoting just_hc:

You are legally liable.   Sorry, he will win if he sues you.    You can simply turn this in as a homeowners claim and they will pay his expenses.   

by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:31 PM

 Sorry this was supposed to be funny.... I guess I'm the only one who still loves Peter Sellers in the Pink Panther.


PS: Does your dog bite?

Front desk guy:no

PS Goes to touch dog. Dog growls and then trys to bite

PS: I thought you said yer dewg does not bite

Front desk guy: That's not my dog

You're story made me think of this skit. Anyways your FIL was warned so it's he's fault, but they are family made try to find a mutal agreement...GL

Quoting Anonymous:

She hasn't, ever. In fact, before the baby I had only even heard her growl a handful of times. FIL was the only one stupid enough not to listen to me when I said she is very protective of the baby, let me get the baby for you.


Quoting Kokoscold:




by Raye on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:32 PM
He is at fault. He was warned and still continued.

But at the same time, I personally feel that maybe you guys could pay just a little. But at the same time, I'm on the fence about it.

maybe you all should try talking about something and meet in the middle?
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by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 1:32 PM
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I wouldn't tolerate a dog that bite for any reason. In this situation I wouldn't pay for his bill. But knowing I owned a dog capable of breaking the skin of a human. What if he was seriously hurt, all because he wanted to pick up his grandchild!? That's a dangerous dog! I'd personally be reflecting on what I'm willing to risk for this dog!
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