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I don't know what to think, someone please help

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I am in utter shock. I just don't know what to think about this. I am not even sure how to feel about it. I can't even concentrate on anything right now. My husband got irritated at our kids tonight. We went out to eat and our son was whiny...he's 5. Our daughter was moody. She's10. He asked her a question and she just wouldn't say anything. I hate when she does that. It's like talking to a brick wall. I had no clue what was wrong with her.

But I guess he had enough and wouldn't sit with us. I feel like I've been betrayed, like he turned his back on us. I don't know what to say about it. It felt like he just hated us. I am just in utter shock. He's never done this before.Ever. I just cannot find the words to say anything to him right now...am I dumbfounded or something....it is taking everything I have right now to write this. I do not know what to do, I don't know what to say.  DS did act a little ungreatful and extremely whiny, but I just don't see how that is an excuse to check out of the family for a while. I felt like a single mom sitting there. I completely ignored him like he did us.  Why is it that the men get to check out...why? Why do they get to step back and when we gothome hom he made a family annoucement that he is not taking the kids out or buying anymore toys. While I agree with that...I am just not in ageeance that he just sat by himself. I think it was wrong. It kind of feels like a slap in the face. Almost like he doesn't love us or he's sick of us. Can someone help me make sense of this. I can't even do my homework. I feel like I lost somethingand I don't even know what...I feel like I've just suddenly fallen into a depression.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:06 PM
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momma0ffive
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:19 PM

everyone has there breaking point..... the best thing to do is be understanding give him the opportunity to talk about it

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:20 PM



Quoting Anonymous:

I really can't help the way I feel. This was a public place...this was sopossed to be family time.  We don't get a lot of it.  He can be bad about taking his stress out on us.  He even made the remark about dropping us off where we were and him going somewhere else. It just makes me feel as though he hates going places with us.   I do not know how to get a child to quit whining and he knows if you leave dd alone she calms down and quits being moody....I just don't know how to talk to him and he has no idea I'm upset.


grow a backbone, take some parenting classes and quit being a doormat

reaandiziesmama
by Platinum Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:21 PM

Relax. He could have screamed at them or worse. They were frustrating him so he removed himself. Not that big of deal.

bullemhead
by Platinum Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:22 PM

 Her husband is acting like an immature 3 year old in a damn restaurant, in front of the children and other patrons of the restaurant and she's overly sensitive? I don't think so. He needs to act like an adult, finish the meal, and deal with his issues in a private setting as most adults do.

Quoting Anonymous:

You sound really over sensitive.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:22 PM

I can understand needing a minute, but to just ignore us for a whole hour? i think that was a little much. Whenever I need parenting help, he decides to check out.  I am the one who has to do all the disipline and he's the one that yells from the chair.   The kids settled down within 10 minutes and began acting right....why couldn't he have joined us?

KristenFowles
by Ruby Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:23 PM

 I think you're overreacting..

He was upset, annoyed, frustrated.. instead of speaking words he didn't mean, or yelling at the children, he just removed himself from the situation to cool down.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:24 PM
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This is what I am talking about!

Quoting bullemhead:

 Her husband is acting like an immature 3 year old in a damn reataurant, in front of the children and other patrons of the resturant and she's overly sensitive? I don't think so. He needs to act like an adult, finish the meal, and deal with his issues in a private setting as most adults do.

Quoting Anonymous:

You sound really over sensitive.

 



NewMamaBoo
by Platinum Member on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:26 PM

Sounds like a douche

tharealty2
by on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:29 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

for one, he sounds like an immature douche.

and two..i can see being upset but it's not that big of a deal, i think your overreacting a little...

this

Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Feb. 15, 2013 at 10:29 PM

ok so he stepped away and took a time out when he got upset with the kids ?

are you teaching your kids how to step back when they get up set and take a time out form whats upsetting them ? 

maybe you should have left  but im a firm believer that  you cant learn to drive with out a car kids cant learn to go out with out doing it 

if your so upset with him i get that  you feel he abandoned you and the kids  may not be cool but think of this at least he knew he was upset and took a time out and dint get home beat the hell out of them emotionally or physically 

IMHO count your blessings that he had enough sense  to walk away  b4 getting pissed and that he has the good sense  to take a time out from the situation 

me i would have asked for the food to go  i woudl have taken the kids out to the car as hubby paid colected food  and on the way home stopped so hubby and i could pick up some nice yummy ice cream cones  fro me and him and let them watch us eat them  when they ask why they don't get one simple  only ppl who behave  correctly out to eat get goodies 


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