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Do you think we are bad parents. *edited

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My husband and I have made a decision.
We are moving back to Florida from Tennessee. My husband will be starting school in the fall to be a database administrator. He is taking a direct job instead of a contractor job so that he can have benefits and steady guaranteed work.
We will be able to buy a home and get back on our feet with our finances.
I am starting barrel racing (a life long dream), and getting a part time job.. Our daughter will start pre-k next fall. At a school that is amazing and her great grandmother is there everyday as well as her cousins. My daughter will have 20 acres to run and play on and be a kid that isn't trapped in an apartment in the middle of a city. (not bashing any one whose kids are. Its just not how i want her to grow up).

I ask because, my inlaws are pissed. They are saying we are selfish parents and care nothing about our daughter and only care about our own selfish dreams. So.. Because we are better-ing our lives then we are selfish.They say we are only going back because my family spoils me. They are saying Im just a spoiled brat because my grandpa is.giving me his truck when he retires. Because he's buying another one. They say I don't deserve to have better vehicle then them because i don't work. (yes i do) they have a 2003 durango from a buy here pay here and my grandpa is giving me a 2011 Toyota Tundra. Its not my fault their truck got repo-ed.

Long story short. My mother in law thinks my 26 year old husband is still 12 and doesn't know how to detach the apron strings. She thinks he still needs to be living with her. And constantly under her watch.

I knew I could come to CM for an honest opinion.
So do what it is you do ladies! Voice your opnions!

** For those saying there is more to the story. Please read the replies.
Im not some materialistic person.. My husband and I want better for our daughters future. My husband WILL have guaranteed work and until you know the field my husband works in. You wouldnt understand the concept of me saying that.

I will answer on and off today 02/17 as we are packing up to head home tomorrow.
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by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:14 AM
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Jcothrine
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:32 AM
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tell your dh's parents to SHUT UP!


lol

JC

camsmami
by Silver Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:32 AM
Im always ready to get away because they are so controlling and nuts!

Quoting lucsch:

I say live wherever you want. Your in-laws just don't want you to leave so they are making accusations. That would make me want to move even more!

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mysticalmalissa
by Platinum Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:34 AM
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I say go for it, but you will miss how cheap it is to live in TN. lol

elliotmommytobe
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:35 AM
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Srry wasnt sure whose parents were saying what lol I got confused

Quoting camsmami:

No.. My parents are amazing. His SUCK!



Quoting elliotmommytobe:

I think your guyss parents are being selfish for treating you guys this way
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supermomz25
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:35 AM
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yes, you are horrible parents! how dare you think of your family over the needs and wants of your in-laws...
*I'm sure you gathered that I was being completely sarcastic*

you are doing what you guys think is best for your family, good for you! if they can't deal, well then that's just too bad.

bonnie555
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:37 AM

It doesn't sound like she has any respect for you. I think the relationship sounds toxic and distance would be better for both of you. I feel for your dd because she will miss her grandparents but it sounds like you are going to have a better life in Florida....

Khaleesi
by Silver Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:37 AM

No, you're not a bad parent. Your in-laws need to grow the fuck up.

camsmami
by Silver Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:40 AM
Its cheap to live here? Ha!

Quoting mysticalmalissa:

I say go for it, but you will miss how cheap it is to live in TN. lol

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TaygansMommy
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:41 AM
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I don't think your being a bad parent at all. I am sure they will still visit at some point. It's not like your taking her away forever. Even if they were to never see her again, that still wouldn't make you a bad parent. You and your DH are bettering yourselves and trying your hardest for your children and doing the things that you want to do. Nobody should make you out to be a bad parent just because you are moving away for the better. You are the parent and it is YOUR decision. Don't sweat it, some people just don't understand. Misery loves company. :)

TugBoatMama
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:41 AM
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My mom did the same thing when I told her we were moving to Louisiana for awhile for my hubs' job. I, of course felt bad and bought her flowers and a card before the move because she refused to speak to or see me. She didn't even want to say goodbye just to be a...well...

So long story short- they(your inlaws) are being kind of nuts.

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