Ds is 4. Our cut off date for kinder is September 30. He was born September 29. So he is eligible for kinder this coming fall. However, I don't feel he is ready. He is struggling in preschool with being in attentive and lacking focus as well as an over abundance of energy. We had a consult with his neurologist about ADHD but he wants ds to start kinder and have the same issues he's already having in a "real school environment" before he'll diagnose him and get ds help. Ds can not identify letters, their sounds, identify numbers, or write at all. His teachers, my parents and myself have all tried to work with him on this stuff but he can't stay focused to learn. It has become a big problem for us. I know that by sending him to kinder he'll get the help he needs but I don't want to see him go and fail because he wasn't ready. He already has problems because he is disappointed in himself when he can't do things. I have always told myself the I wouldn't send him until he was almost 6 because I want him to be mature enough to handle it. But I'm just not sure anymore. Kinder here is full day btw. What would you do??