What happens when little Autistic Johnny grows up? Are you still going to be there saying "He has autism" to excuse your 28 year old from kicking shelves down in the store and potentially hurting others
What happens when Sarah with ADHD gets a job? Are you going to tell her boss that she isn't productive because she has ADHD so he can't fire her?
If not then why are you sheltering them so much now? They need to see that the world doesn't revolve around them and no, their special need does not give them a hot ticket to every event of the season.