I have done LOADS of research on the Intact v. Infant Circumcision argument, and have never found ONE study that was accurate that would recommend this surgery for a newborn.
I'd like to know as a mom who kept her son intact, and has watched her kids turn in essays and lead conversations on Intact v. Circumcised, leading many many young teens to question why their parents would make the choice to remove such a sensitive part of their genetalia.....
What will you say if your son comes to you one day and asks you why, and tells you he is having problems or unhappy with the decision your and dad made for him?
What if he were to cut you out of his life for making this life altering decision? (I know many men who have done so).
What about when he is in the minority in the locker room (which is average at about 2023) and is made funny of because part of his penis is missing.
I don't want this to be a shouting match. If MY son were to ask why I left him intact and say he was being made fun of I would listen to his argument and support his decision as an informed adult to have his foreskin removed.....but what to do when you take away something that cannot be given back?
edit: After several days of this post gaining attention from all different kinds of people I have learned 2 things:
1. It is very very difficult to get people to educate themselves when the education doesnt agree with the crap they have been fed as "the truth" for their whole lives. Even medical professionals refuse to read proven reports if they don't agree with that individuals personal opinion.
2. WAY too many moms are only doing this to make their kids genitals "look" the way they think they should look.
I respect the moms who answered the question, the moms who admitted they made this choice because they thought they were doing what was best and using the information they were given, and I appreciate the moms who have admitted that this should be their sons decision to make when he is older.
For the moms who are uneducated and unwilling to get educated about the functions of the foreskin, correct intact care, and genital integrity, they still perform female genital cutting in Somalia.....so when you decide how you want your daughters vaginas to look, they can accomodate you there.
i know about 10-15 males who were left intact and as a teen got snipped.
if my DS asked me why he was circ, i would tell him it was to keep him clean, and not dirty, i would be HONEST
And if he had the research that showed him that was untrue and that removing his foreskin subjected him to fecal bacteria in a wound and introduction to bacteria in his urethra?
I'm not trying to be inflammatory, I am asking, if HE has done research that tells him differently.....what then?
If they were taking off their underpants and comparing penises in gym would be a bigger concern for me.
but that is the argument for doing it sometimes
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Pnukey:
If they were taking off their underpants and comparing penises in gym would be a bigger concern for me.
That was a decision that DH insisted on. I honestly wasn't sure one way or another.
and honestly I would be disappointed if my son stops talking to me over it bc then I did something wrong raising him
I hadn't heard that one. I didn't think boys did that in gym. Maybe I don't want to know.
Quoting DebnDrew:but that is the argument for doing it sometimes
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Pnukey:
If they were taking off their underpants and comparing penises in gym would be a bigger concern for me.
what to do when the special needs kid is the bully?
Have you ever kept a secret from your spouse?
- DebnDrew
on Feb. 17, 2013 at 8:18 PM