I had to move my 10 yr old to my parents house :( :( (UPDATE)

[Two_Hearts]

UPDATE: March 18th ~ She is back home with me ...has been for a week, MY choice. 

Let me start off by saying , my 10 yr old DD has ADD/ ODD and Anxiety. All for which she is on medication for.

I have been fighting the past ten years to get her the help that she needs, i have tried all avenues...i have gone through as much help that i could that is offered by my city.

She is often violent , rude , disrespectful ...and goes after me with the intention of hurting me.

For the past couple of months i thought that she was turned around...i thought i was making progress....

This past weekend proved wrong...she started going after me on Friday, to which she was grounded ....

This morning was worse , it was over nail polish that she threw at the wall...i had told her to pick it up and to throw it out , she refused ...i warned her that she would lose ALL of the nail polish if she did not do as she was told....she refused, so i took the nail polish.

She started screaming at the top of her lungs and throwing even more things , so i took away her bin containing her puzzles/ games etc ....

She then again got physical with me ..she is 4'6 , i am 4'11. 

I ended up calling the police on her, the police came ....she kept it up...they had to calm her down.

This was the very first time i have EVER called the police on her...

An hour after they left , my other half told me to go for a walk and just get some time to myself ...so i did.

I was only across the street ....we live 8 floors up.

And i heard her screaming at the top of her lungs ..and flinging things around the house.

The reason ?? My SO asked her to please clean up her mess ..and to vacuum.

My parent's have been offering to take her for over a year , there are two people in the house ...plus my siblings that live in the same town.

She knows how to manipulate me ...she looks for ways to hurt me on purpose....she need's discipline and help that i can't give her anymore.

I packed up her bags and took my parents up on their offer ..because the way the day was going i know the police would have been back , and she would have been taken to foster care ...

I am so heartbroken and upset ..

If you are going to bash , please refrain from doing so...i've had a hard enough day as it is.

LET ME ADD : IF you do NOT know anything about ADD / ODD ...then perhaps you should step back from this post. This is not a normal child that i am dealing with , children do NOT come with a hand book ..and children with these problems are NOT your regular child.

You want to call me a bad mom...do it then, HOWEVER...i could have TOLD the police to take my DD this morning and i didnt...i could have called CPS myself and asked for her to be removed ...i didnt. 

I made the decision that i THOUGHT AND THINK is the best for the situation at hand.

She has been warned for the past year , that this may be an option if things get bad enough....she was WARNED to start respecting me.

I am going up on Wednesday to enroll her in school.

Then every two weeks after that for a visit.

When she starts showing improvement, she can start coming home for weekend visits and we can start seeing how it is going.... 

During this time , i will be going to parenting classes on my own , i will be working with counsellors and i will be doing what i can to improve myself for when she comes back.

[IFartGlitter]

Im sorry. I dont understand how you could give up on your child. But im sorry.

[ButterMeUp]

I'm so sorry you had to do that. The worse thing to do as a mother is to have to give you child up rather it be temp. or perm. I'll be praying for you all. <>

[Two_Hearts]

Quoting IFartGlitter:

Im sorry. I dont understand how you could give up on your child. But im sorry.

i know that it would appear that way , but after ten years ....it get's to a person.

And once police are involved ,and it didnt even phase her ...extreme measure's have to be taken.

I talked to my sister an hour ago via text and she told me that my daughter was busy folding her laundry ....i couldn't get my daughter to fold laundry ever..

[IFartGlitter]

Quoting Two_Hearts:

Quoting IFartGlitter:

Im sorry. I dont understand how you could give up on your child. But im sorry.

i know that it would appear that way , but after ten years ....it get's to a person.

And once police are involved ,and it didnt even phase her ...extreme measure's have to be taken.

I talked to my sister an hour ago via text and she told me that my daughter was busy folding her laundry ....i couldn't get my daughter to fold laundry ever..

have you considered parenting classes to help you learn to deal with her?

[cerainwondrland]

I'm sorry. Sounds like u made the right choice. Idk tho my kids are still little so I have no advice to give =(

[Anonymous]

I can understand.

[Anonymous]

I understand. My brother went through the same thing with his dd. Sometimes, it is index the best choice.

[Two_Hearts]

Quoting ButterMeUp:

I'm so sorry you had to do that. The worse thing to do as a mother is to have to give you child up rather it be temp. or perm. I'll be praying for you all. <>

I have been crying all day and i don't see me stopping anytime soon :( :( 

[D.O.E.]

no way in hell i am going to bash you, its not an easy choice to make ((hugs))

[Anonymous]

I'm going to get ripped to shreds for this one but have you ever just kicked her fucking ass?