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Am I out of line?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

Ok, so my eldest child is 7 and in first grade (I have 4 children total, the youngest is 4 weeks old) We have a swingset with a fort in our back yard.  We live on a military post so it is rather safe.  My daughter and our next door neighbor are playing in my back yard when another child that my daughter knows from class walks up.  She wants to play as well but I have the rule that I must meet parents, they must know wherei live and have a phone number, just in case, before I let a child play on our playset.  The parent refuses to come over so I refuse to let the child play on the play set.  Am I wrong?  Is this how parents parent now a days?  (I ask because the girls parents yelled at me for wanting to meet her).




Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 1:07 AM
Replies (21-30):
BeachMommy07
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 6:12 AM

Good rule, I wouldn't let random children in my yard on my sons playset either without knowing the parents.

Bonita131
by Platinum Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 6:13 AM

 


Quoting bluedolly01:

Nope not out of line at all. We used to have a little boy who would come and play in the park in our street with some of the other neighbourhood kids, no one knew who this poor guy was, where he lived, never met his parents nothing.

This poor kid would wander the streets at 5.30 am and still be wandering at 8-9.00at night. HE WAS 5.

Anyway one day he got injured (broken foot) and no one had anyway of contacting his parents ended up calling an ambulance and police. All three kids were taken away by Children's Services.


 Where were you and your neighbors when this little boy was wandering the streets morning and night by himself at such a young age? Why would you not go out of your way to find out where he lived or at least call someone to alert them about the boy wandering the streets alone?  You seriously had to wait until he had an accident to step in and finally do something? Jesus christ, I don't think I'd like you or any one of your neighbors living in my neighborhood. 

JLS2388
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 6:35 AM

No, I agree with you

JLS2388
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 6:38 AM

That wouldn't have helped her if the child got hurt that time



Quoting Lindalou907:

I would've let her play. You would probably end up meeting her parents eventually.



JLS2388
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 6:41 AM

Wait, so it's her job to police this kid? She has 4 of her own, has offered to let this child play over if she could just meet the parents and they can't be bothered but she should go look for them? I don't agree with letting a child that young wander around but she can't mother the whole neighborhood.



Quoting Bonita131:



Quoting bluedolly01:

Nope not out of line at all. We used to have a little boy who would come and play in the park in our street with some of the other neighbourhood kids, no one knew who this poor guy was, where he lived, never met his parents nothing.

This poor kid would wander the streets at 5.30 am and still be wandering at 8-9.00at night. HE WAS 5.

Anyway one day he got injured (broken foot) and no one had anyway of contacting his parents ended up calling an ambulance and police. All three kids were taken away by Children's Services.


 Where were you and your neighbors when this little boy was wandering the streets morning and night by himself at such a young age? Why would you not go out of your way to find out where he lived or at least call someone to alert them about the boy wandering the streets alone?  You seriously had to wait until he had an accident to step in and finally do something? Jesus christ, I don't think I'd like you or any one of your neighbors living in my neighborhood. 



raye-chan
by Raye on Feb. 18, 2013 at 6:42 AM
Not out of line. My mother did the same when I was younger and I will do the same when my son gets older.
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WithHope
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 6:45 AM
Your kid, your house, your rules.
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Elle.tea.22
by Ruby Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 7:00 AM

Yelling for that? They can fuck off in my book. I'd ask around, maybe they aren't very good people and you don't want their kid over anyways.

Bonita131
by Platinum Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 7:00 AM

 


Quoting JLS2388:

Wait, so it's her job to police this kid? She has 4 of her own, has offered to let this child play over if she could just meet the parents and they can't be bothered but she should go look for them? I don't agree with letting a child that young wander around but she can't mother the whole neighborhood.

 

 

Quoting Bonita131:

 

 

Quoting bluedolly01:

Nope not out of line at all. We used to have a little boy who would come and play in the park in our street with some of the other neighbourhood kids, no one knew who this poor guy was, where he lived, never met his parents nothing.

This poor kid would wander the streets at 5.30 am and still be wandering at 8-9.00at night. HE WAS 5.

Anyway one day he got injured (broken foot) and no one had anyway of contacting his parents ended up calling an ambulance and police. All three kids were taken away by Children's Services.

 

 Where were you and your neighbors when this little boy was wandering the streets morning and night by himself at such a young age? Why would you not go out of your way to find out where he lived or at least call someone to alert them about the boy wandering the streets alone?  You seriously had to wait until he had an accident to step in and finally do something? Jesus christ, I don't think I'd like you or any one of your neighbors living in my neighborhood. 

 

 

It is EVERY ADULTS RESPOSIBILITY to do something about a 5 year old child they see wandering the streets morning and night. What kind of person are you anyway? You'd honestly be like the OP and do nothing but tsk tsk  to your neighbors about the 5 yr old you see wandering around until the child got hurt?  Unfreaking real.

JLS2388
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:03 AM

I am a person who lives in a neighborhood where this kind of thing happens a lot. I don't approve of young children wandering around on their own but it happens and unless I plan on watching these kids full time, there isn't anything I can do. We live in an apartment complex and I told to the on site policeman about it. He said that as long as there is a parent or older sibling 12 or older at home, legally there is nothing he can do



Quoting Bonita131:



Quoting JLS2388:

Wait, so it's her job to police this kid? She has 4 of her own, has offered to let this child play over if she could just meet the parents and they can't be bothered but she should go look for them? I don't agree with letting a child that young wander around but she can't mother the whole neighborhood.



Quoting Bonita131:



Quoting bluedolly01:

Nope not out of line at all. We used to have a little boy who would come and play in the park in our street with some of the other neighbourhood kids, no one knew who this poor guy was, where he lived, never met his parents nothing.

This poor kid would wander the streets at 5.30 am and still be wandering at 8-9.00at night. HE WAS 5.

Anyway one day he got injured (broken foot) and no one had anyway of contacting his parents ended up calling an ambulance and police. All three kids were taken away by Children's Services.


 Where were you and your neighbors when this little boy was wandering the streets morning and night by himself at such a young age? Why would you not go out of your way to find out where he lived or at least call someone to alert them about the boy wandering the streets alone?  You seriously had to wait until he had an accident to step in and finally do something? Jesus christ, I don't think I'd like you or any one of your neighbors living in my neighborhood. 



It is EVERY ADULTS RESPOSIBILITY to do something about a 5 year old child they see wandering the streets morning and night. What kind of person are you anyway? You'd honestly be like the OP and do nothing but tsk tsk  to your neighbors about the 5 yr old you see wandering around until the child got hurt?  Unfreaking real.



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