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Am I out of line?

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Ok, so my eldest child is 7 and in first grade (I have 4 children total, the youngest is 4 weeks old) We have a swingset with a fort in our back yard.  We live on a military post so it is rather safe.  My daughter and our next door neighbor are playing in my back yard when another child that my daughter knows from class walks up.  She wants to play as well but I have the rule that I must meet parents, they must know wherei live and have a phone number, just in case, before I let a child play on our playset.  The parent refuses to come over so I refuse to let the child play on the play set.  Am I wrong?  Is this how parents parent now a days?  (I ask because the girls parents yelled at me for wanting to meet her).




Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 1:07 AM
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Bonita131
by Platinum Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:41 AM

 


Quoting JLS2388:

I am a person who lives in a neighborhood where this kind of thing happens a lot. I don't approve of young children wandering around on their own but it happens and unless I plan on watching these kids full time, there isn't anything I can do. We live in an apartment complex and I told to the on site policeman about it. He said that as long as there is a parent or older sibling 12 or older at home, legally there is nothing he can do

 

 

Quoting Bonita131:

 

 

Quoting JLS2388:

Wait, so it's her job to police this kid? She has 4 of her own, has offered to let this child play over if she could just meet the parents and they can't be bothered but she should go look for them? I don't agree with letting a child that young wander around but she can't mother the whole neighborhood.

 

 

Quoting Bonita131:

 

 

Quoting bluedolly01:

Nope not out of line at all. We used to have a little boy who would come and play in the park in our street with some of the other neighbourhood kids, no one knew who this poor guy was, where he lived, never met his parents nothing.

This poor kid would wander the streets at 5.30 am and still be wandering at 8-9.00at night. HE WAS 5.

Anyway one day he got injured (broken foot) and no one had anyway of contacting his parents ended up calling an ambulance and police. All three kids were taken away by Children's Services.

 

 Where were you and your neighbors when this little boy was wandering the streets morning and night by himself at such a young age? Why would you not go out of your way to find out where he lived or at least call someone to alert them about the boy wandering the streets alone?  You seriously had to wait until he had an accident to step in and finally do something? Jesus christ, I don't think I'd like you or any one of your neighbors living in my neighborhood. 

 

 

It is EVERY ADULTS RESPOSIBILITY to do something about a 5 year old child they see wandering the streets morning and night. What kind of person are you anyway? You'd honestly be like the OP and do nothing but tsk tsk  to your neighbors about the 5 yr old you see wandering around until the child got hurt?  Unfreaking real.

 

 

This is not about a child that the OP and neighbors knew a parent or older child was at the child's home, this was about a 5 year old child wandering the streets that the OP admitted, she and the and the neighbors did not know where he lived.  

In other words, no one in the neighborhood could be bothered to try and find out where the child lived by asking him, and no one in the neighborhood could be bothered with calling someone to check on the child so they could find out where he lived until he had an accident. 

Sorry, that is not my idea of a caring neighborhood, nor is it a neighborhood I'd ever want to live in.

 

JLS2388
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:44 AM

Like I said, it is common in my neighborhood and at this point, I would probably stay out of it



Quoting Bonita131:



Quoting JLS2388:

I am a person who lives in a neighborhood where this kind of thing happens a lot. I don't approve of young children wandering around on their own but it happens and unless I plan on watching these kids full time, there isn't anything I can do. We live in an apartment complex and I told to the on site policeman about it. He said that as long as there is a parent or older sibling 12 or older at home, legally there is nothing he can do



Quoting Bonita131:



Quoting JLS2388:

Wait, so it's her job to police this kid? She has 4 of her own, has offered to let this child play over if she could just meet the parents and they can't be bothered but she should go look for them? I don't agree with letting a child that young wander around but she can't mother the whole neighborhood.



Quoting Bonita131:



Quoting bluedolly01:

Nope not out of line at all. We used to have a little boy who would come and play in the park in our street with some of the other neighbourhood kids, no one knew who this poor guy was, where he lived, never met his parents nothing.

This poor kid would wander the streets at 5.30 am and still be wandering at 8-9.00at night. HE WAS 5.

Anyway one day he got injured (broken foot) and no one had anyway of contacting his parents ended up calling an ambulance and police. All three kids were taken away by Children's Services.


 Where were you and your neighbors when this little boy was wandering the streets morning and night by himself at such a young age? Why would you not go out of your way to find out where he lived or at least call someone to alert them about the boy wandering the streets alone?  You seriously had to wait until he had an accident to step in and finally do something? Jesus christ, I don't think I'd like you or any one of your neighbors living in my neighborhood. 



It is EVERY ADULTS RESPOSIBILITY to do something about a 5 year old child they see wandering the streets morning and night. What kind of person are you anyway? You'd honestly be like the OP and do nothing but tsk tsk  to your neighbors about the 5 yr old you see wandering around until the child got hurt?  Unfreaking real.



This is not about a child that the OP and neighbors knew a parent or older child was at the child's home, this was about a 5 year old child wandering the streets that the OP admitted, she and the and the neighbors did not know where he lived.  

In other words, no one in the neighborhood could be bothered to try and find out where the child lived by asking him, and no one in the neighborhood could be bothered with calling someone to check on the child so they could find out where he lived until he had an accident. 

Sorry, that is not my idea of a caring neighborhood, nor is it a neighborhood I'd ever want to live in.




3xangel
by *Angelicious* on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:45 AM


Quoting cali_angel_girl:

Nope I don't think that is out of line at all.  

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TippyD
by Silver Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:46 AM

we will have the same rule:)

barrelracer1699
by Silver Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:49 AM

It is smart, although there are how many parents on the military bases that have the false sense of security being on base. They sound like one of them parents. Shame the kid has to miss out because the parents are douchs. But they would probably be the first ones screaming at you if something happened to their kid, because they didn't know you and you let the kid play on the set!

URHonor
by Rotten.Girl on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:51 AM

I agree with you! It's my rule too. 

brettsmomma
by ~Tammie~ on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:52 AM

I have the same rule.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:54 AM

I would have the same damn rule especially on a playset that I am responsible for. If a child were to get hurt you need to be able to call the parents. Some parents are just lazy and stupid

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:58 AM

I wouldn't have needed to meet them in person, especially if they had children at home they needed to care for.  I would have skyped and gotten their address (you already had the phone number) and discussed use of the playset.  

Why did you need an in-person face to face instead of skype?

Nicole1357
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 11:01 AM

I'd want to meet the parents first as well. :) Good job momma!!  

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