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Is suicide always selfish? ETA/ decided to share my story and why I attempted suicide

Anonymous
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Is it?
What makes it selfish?

Someone told me that it's selfish because you are leaving behind people who will Grieve for you.

But what about when you don't have anyone that will grieve for you?

I attempted suicide at the age of 12.

Had I succeeded, no one would've grieved for me.

What wouldve made that selfish?



When I was 8 my mom remarried.
I did not like her new husband, and did not feel comfortable around him.
He would watch me bathe. Insist in helping me dress. Etc. he never molested me though.

At 10 both he and my mom were drinking heavily, and I learned be was a registered as offender,

He took off and came back. Took off and came back, over and over again.

We moved to a trailer park and my mom
Was always drunk.

She often told me how much she hated me. She'd throw anything she could get her hands on,

Shortly after I turned 12 I was raped.

My mother did not believe me. A report was never made. That bigt I attempted to hang myself from the ceiling fan in my room.

I woke up several hours later on the floor.

After that I started cutting.

At 14 1/2 I met a guy. My first boyfriend. Who was a former cutter.
He tried to convince me stop.

2 months before I turned 16 I found out I was pregnant.

I stopped cutting for the sake of my baby.

My mother never knew I was pregnant. I packed up after a fight one day and never went back.

She didn't report me as a runaway or anything.

I stayed with my boyfriend and his father.

we portioned for permission to marry. They tracked my mom down she consented and we got married.

Our daughter was Born.

We both graduated early.

we have a beautiful daughter.

I am so thankful that I failed but also at the same time do not see that I was being selfish at that point.
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:25 PM
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o.0
by Silver Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:36 PM

no

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:39 PM

It's a personal choice. We all live, we all die, and it should be up to each of us to decide when we want that to happen. In the end it doesn't really matter who you leave behind, it's your body and your choice. Will people miss me if I get into a car accident and die today? Yes. Will they move on and will the world eventually forget me all together? Absolutely. It's a part of life. The way one dies changes nothing.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:40 PM
I suppose its not selfish if there is literally no one to care about you when you're gone. However, people who are suicidal may actually think no one will care, but the truth is there are people that would care. Committing suicide is also cheating yourself out of what could be.
A very, very good friend of mine and DHs killed himself almost 2 years ago at 27 years old. He had just had his very first child, a son, born only a few months before. I think that was incredibly selfish...
brittney28
by Brittney on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:40 PM
No
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 18, 2013 at 3:12 PM
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CrazyLife1996
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 3:15 PM
No. You have no way of knowing why they chose that their life was no longer important to them.
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IamMex11
by JorgematoTM on Feb. 18, 2013 at 3:17 PM

its murder

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 18, 2013 at 3:45 PM
Murder?


Quoting IamMex11:

its murder


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 19, 2013 at 8:31 PM
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slashteddy
by Platinum Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 8:32 PM
It's not selfish.
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