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9 and 10 yr olds dating?

Anonymous
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When my neighbor's 9 year old daughter came up to me to ask me if she could date my 10 year old son, I said "It's up to him", because I thought to myself, "How far can it honestly go? What are they gonna do, share animal crackers at the park with me driving them there?"

Much to my dismay, it has become a deeper problem. My son has been taught by me and his father that it's not ok to show physical displays of affection at his age (either publically or privately). We've taught him that it's ok to have a little crush, but that he shouldn't "date" at least until he's a teenager, and then it will be discussed.

His lil "girlfriend" is absolutely obsessed with him. She invites herself over for dinner, to go to the park, tries to sneak down into his bedroom when he's playing with his mates to try to "give him a kiss". She told me yesterday that she had indeed kissed him. I asked her what kind of kiss and she said just a peck with no tongue. What the actual fuck? Then later in the day she was trying to hold h is hand. She also informed me not to tell her mother that she is dating him because she was recently baptized and not allowed to date until age 16. She borrows my cell phone to text him when he's not here, asks me for rides to go see him when he's visiting his friends (she will drop off candy and love notes to him).

She plays "house" with him and pretends that she is pregnant with his baby. And then my final straw was when she made a video of herself pretending she was "making out" with him, on MY phone (I had no idea she was doing all of these things listed above so please do not judge!)

What should I do! Help help! I did call her mother to leave a message but I got no returned call. Her family seems to be very distant from actually raising her. Her mother is always "sick" or sleeping. Her daddy is rarely home. 

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:28 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:31 PM
Your kinda at fault here too. You gave her "permission" so to speak.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:32 PM

Well that was before she told me she wasn't allowed and also I thought it was just a little crush. Like I said, I thought what harm could possibly be done, they're just ten. When I was ten we were just winking and sharing animal crackers. :( I asked for advise, not to be blamed. 


Quoting Anonymous:

Your kinda at fault here too. You gave her "permission" so to speak.



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:33 PM

Um.........r u serious?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:33 PM

Yeah (facedesk) totally serious. 


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Um.........r u serious?



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:34 PM
I wouldn't allow her in my home. And wouldn't allow my son to play with her. She is TROUBLE
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:35 PM

Thanks. I thought it would be innocent..like little friends. His first little crush. She even told me she dresses up her barbies by putting a ball in their clothes to pretend they are pregnant. I'm totally freaked out!!!!!


Quoting Anonymous:

I wouldn't allow her in my home. And wouldn't allow my son to play with her. She is TROUBLE



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:39 PM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:40 PM
I'm wondering if she has been abused? Your son is still young And needs your help choosing friends.


Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks. I thought it would be innocent..like little friends. His first little crush. She even told me she dresses up her barbies by putting a ball in their clothes to pretend they are pregnant. I'm totally freaked out!!!!!



Quoting Anonymous:

I wouldn't allow her in my home. And wouldn't allow my son to play with her. She is TROUBLE





Sunshine2plus2
by Platinum Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:42 PM

I would talk to her. She obviously has not be taught right from wrong and it appears she has seen way to much at home. 

othermom
by Ruby Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 2:42 PM

 

I agree that she should not be allowed over and i would be going to talk to her parents

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm wondering if she has been abused? Your son is still young And needs your help choosing friends.


Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks. I thought it would be innocent..like little friends. His first little crush. She even told me she dresses up her barbies by putting a ball in their clothes to pretend they are pregnant. I'm totally freaked out!!!!!

 


Quoting Anonymous:

I wouldn't allow her in my home. And wouldn't allow my son to play with her. She is TROUBLE

 


 



 

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