my son is in a Special Needs preschool for his Autism. There are also children with Physical Special Needs as well. About 2 months ago, he had a friend named Cole. They were assigned as Classroom Buddies. Which meant they did activities together, ate meals and snacks together, sat together. Cole had been sick for awhile and finally passed away 2 months ago from a Brain Tumor at the age of 3.
It was hard on alot of the parents, as well as the students. He hadn't been in school the last month from being so ill. So they sang some songs and made a DVD so Cole could watch it at the hospital. They made a scrapbook and send drawings. It was a very sad thing.
My son was playing on the whiteboard. I saw that he had written a name. Big deal for him with his Autism. I was excited, saying "Good Job Camden!!! You wrote your friends' name!!!". And then it hit me what he had written. C-O-L-E. Cole. The name of his friend who had passed away.
I have talked to his teacher. They do continue to talk about Cole, and have his picture up. The kids in the class continue to ask about him so they wanted to put it all out in the open and be as honest as possible about everything. How Cole isn't with us anymore. He was born very sick. But we will see him again sometime. And not to worry-they arent sick like Cole was. They don't have to worry about that happening to them. That kind of thing.
With his Autism I'm not sure how much he grasps about the concept of death. I try to ask him about Cole, but he will often respond with answers that have nothing to do with what I am asking. Taking his Special Needs into account, how much should I address this with him? Is he okay? Do you think he is just writing his name from memory with no emotion attached? What should I do? Should I try and really talk with him about it? it's hard to get through to him because of the Autism at times so I don't want to push it. But I don't want to not address something when he needs to get something out to grieve and heal properly. Mommas, what should I do?