After 4 years away Biomom is trying to destroy our family!.
Well they had never really been a couple and we ( DH and i) lost touch for a while. When I was 17, I ran into him after babysitting Manny. Biomom's parents had Manny most of the time, i babysat a lot. But he saw her every 3-4 days. He bought me a coffee, and the rest is history. We got married when I was 18, a few months after I graduated high school.
By this time biomom was already mostly out of the picture. She kept Manny pretty much EOWE. Told her to call me Momma. And said I was her "full time mommy now" that she was "part time mommy." DH and I had her a lot more than Mom or grandparents at this point.
When we found out I was pregnant with number 2 (which actually became 2&3) we asked biomom if we could have full custody of Manny.
Biomom agreed and terminated her rights just a few days after Manny's 4th birthday. On the condition that we never contact her, and that any contact between her and Manny be on her terms. We, of course, said that it would have to be what Manny wanted too.
Well when Manny was 7, I was pregnant with our 4th and was officially adopting Manny when I was in a car accident. Long story short, I have birth at 36weeks, and both my son and I had to have blood transfusions. My sons blood was tainted. He is now a carrier of AIDS at 3 years old.
We haven't seen or heard from biomom in about 4 years.
But she just found out that Manny is sharing a home with a child with AIDS and is trying to sue us for full custody. Saying that we are knowingly putting her daughter's life in danger every day. And she's also saying it could cause psychological problems as well.
We're trying not to be worried though. She terminated her rights, and Manny is legally my daughter. But, I am still scared deep down that Larson's illness could cause me to lose my oldest daughter.
Manny says she loves her birth mom, but that she loves her family the way it is now even more. She wants to get to know her mom, but that I'm her Momma and she doesn't want anyone else to try to change that. I just tell her she's blessed to have another parent out there that loves her.
I am constantly fighting for my children. I'll do it until the day I die. But, I wish things would stop trying to break our family apart.