Im listening to my iPod at full blast to drown out my child's crying. *etu*
I will admit I hit the jackpot in the kids department. Bedtime has always been a breeze. Then again, they've gone to bed with the same ritual since they were babies. They know what to expect. Naturally, as they get older, it varies a little, lol. I don't still wrap them up like little burritos.
I've been through some crap with them, they're definitely not perfect. They fight and argue like siblings do, but I don't do screaming. Most of the time I have a headache from sinus issues, so screaming and carrying on like that is something that isn't tolerated.
Quoting momtolittleg:
Napoleon Dynamite voice: Lucky
must be nice. Not all children are easy going and easy to calm. Mine is just like me, and loves to argue.
Quoting jillbailey26:
Quoting momtolittleg:
Quoting jillbailey26:If it were my kid, I'd go talk to him. All that carrying on is a waste of time and energy. If he has school tomorrow, he's just keeping himself up later and he may be a pain in the morning too. So, I would discuss what happened, how to make it so it doesn't happen again, kiss him good night, and tell him it's time to settle down now.
My DD can't be reasoned with when she's worked up. For me, going in there would just incite another argument and make things escalate.
Mine calm down when I tell them to, I refuse to talk to them over a screaming hissy fit. I don't think they've ever done anything that the OP has described because we don't allow it.
"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification" Romans 14:19
well "to the point" is a little bit of an overstatement. I can hear my neighbours tv as loud as I hear the kid throwing his tantrum.
With him it's better to ignore it than to try and talk to him. I'd rather not sit here and listen to the tantrum.
If I go in, he will simply argue and think he has gotten his way because he is getting the attention, negative attention is still attention. The arguing will go no where. And arguing with a child is stupid.
If I dont go in, he will realize this tantrum will be ignored and ir's better to not do it, it wont get attention.
Quoting jillbailey26:I didn't say it wouldn't kill him. I asked you if it was okay to do.
Quoting Anonymous:we live in a small place, we are one room apart. Not hard to hear him. Letting him cio at 7yrs is not going to kill him. Not all kids need to be mollycoddled
Quoting jillbailey26:So screaming to the point that you have to put on headphones is okay to do?
Quoting Anonymous:from experience with him, the more attention he gets the more he'll push his limits. If I go in and talk to him he will think he got away with it.
Quoting jillbailey26:If it were my kid, I'd go talk to him. All that carrying on is a waste of time and energy. If he has school tomorrow, he's just keeping himself up later and he may be a pain in the morning too. So, I would discuss what happened, how to make it so it doesn't happen again, kiss him good night, and tell him it's time to settle down now.
Is he still screaming and crying?
Quoting Anonymous:
well "to the point" is a little bit of an overstatement. I can hear my neighbours tv as loud as I hear the kid throwing his tantrum.
With him it's better to ignore it than to try and talk to him. I'd rather not sit here and listen to the tantrum.
If I go in, he will simply argue and think he has gotten his way because he is getting the attention, negative attention is still attention. The arguing will go no where. And arguing with a child is stupid.
If I dont go in, he will realize this tantrum will be ignored and ir's better to not do it, it wont get attention.
Quoting jillbailey26:I didn't say it wouldn't kill him. I asked you if it was okay to do.
Quoting Anonymous:we live in a small place, we are one room apart. Not hard to hear him. Letting him cio at 7yrs is not going to kill him. Not all kids need to be mollycoddled
Quoting jillbailey26:So screaming to the point that you have to put on headphones is okay to do?
Quoting Anonymous:from experience with him, the more attention he gets the more he'll push his limits. If I go in and talk to him he will think he got away with it.
Quoting jillbailey26:If it were my kid, I'd go talk to him. All that carrying on is a waste of time and energy. If he has school tomorrow, he's just keeping himself up later and he may be a pain in the morning too. So, I would discuss what happened, how to make it so it doesn't happen again, kiss him good night, and tell him it's time to settle down now.
"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification" Romans 14:19
I hear you. We all get lucky in some ways, hence we have to be careful about how we respond to other people's ideas/methods. My DD has slept through the night in her own bed since she was 6 weeks. Only gets up if she's sick or there's a storm. So I can't understand people whose kids climb in bed with them every night. I try to avoid giving advice in that department.
Quoting jillbailey26:I will admit I hit the jackpot in the kids department. Bedtime has always been a breeze. Then again, they've gone to bed with the same ritual since they were babies. They know what to expect. Naturally, as they get older, it varies a little, lol. I don't still wrap them up like little burritos.
I've been through some crap with them, they're definitely not perfect. They fight and argue like siblings do, but I don't do screaming. Most of the time I have a headache from sinus issues, so screaming and carrying on like that is something that isn't tolerated.
Quoting momtolittleg:
Napoleon Dynamite voice: Lucky
must be nice. Not all children are easy going and easy to calm. Mine is just like me, and loves to argue.
Quoting jillbailey26:
Quoting momtolittleg:
Quoting jillbailey26:If it were my kid, I'd go talk to him. All that carrying on is a waste of time and energy. If he has school tomorrow, he's just keeping himself up later and he may be a pain in the morning too. So, I would discuss what happened, how to make it so it doesn't happen again, kiss him good night, and tell him it's time to settle down now.
My DD can't be reasoned with when she's worked up. For me, going in there would just incite another argument and make things escalate.
Mine calm down when I tell them to, I refuse to talk to them over a screaming hissy fit. I don't think they've ever done anything that the OP has described because we don't allow it.
Ah, I didnt think of it that way.... I thought of it more like, I gave you a whole 25mins and youre being ungrateful and mouthy?!
hmmm... WHat would you have done differently? I kinda liked the timer idea another cmer posted.
Quoting LuLuThatsWho:
Today I told him he needed to get out of the bath. He sweetly asked for more time, I said 5mins. He asked for more. I said ok.
25mins later I said "ok sweets, time to get out"
When you give a child negotiating powers, it becomes virtually impossible to be an enforcer. You can't be a negotiating mother but a "because I said so" enforcer. Well, I guess you can, but it won't yield consistent results. You said so the first time he was to get out, but you didn't really mean it then.
Quoting Anonymous:
I didnt let him have his way for 5 minutes at a time for 25 minutes. I think you misunderstood what you read.
Quoting LuLuThatsWho:You let him have his way 5 min at a time for 25 minutes. Why on earth did you expect him to cooperate? It sounds like for quite a long time he did, in fact, get to decide that he would not get out.
I don't blame you for punishing the smart mouth, but I also don't blame him for being totally confused. Major mixed messages going on there.
My ex-husband lets my 9yr old sleep in bed with him and his girlfriend...
- LuLuThatsWho
Platinum Member on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:11 PMToday I told him he needed to get out of the bath. He sweetly asked for more time, I said 5mins. He asked for more. I said ok.
25mins later I said "ok sweets, time to get out"
When you give a child negotiating powers, it becomes virtually impossible to be an enforcer. You can't be a negotiating mother but a "because I said so" enforcer. Well, I guess you can, but it won't yield consistent results. You said so the first time he was to get out, but you didn't really mean it then.