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MIL invited people to stay in our vacation home

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Let me start from the beginning. There is going to be a family reunion in Disney World this spring for DH's whole family. We have a time share there that has 2 bedrooms and a living room and we were able to arrange to use some of our time during the  reunion, it is 6 nights, 7 days.

MIL and FIL asked if they could stay with us, knowing about our time share. Of the rooms, there is a master bedroom with a king size bed and a full size pull out couch. There is a living room with a full size fold out couch and then there is a second bedroom with two full size beds. There is 2 bathrooms and a small kitchen so with 2 people per bed that's 10 people plus we will have our baby's pack and play for her to sleep in.

So we figured we could give MIL and FIL the king bed in the master bedroom (they are bigger then me and DH and would not be comfortable sharing a full size bed) and our 4 and 9 year old sons would sleep on the fold out couch in the master bedroom. Our 17 year old DD and her friend who lives with us (her parents are military and were stationed in Germany and agreed to let her stay with us so that she could stay in high school) will sleep on the fold out couch.  That leaves our 6 and 13 year old girls in one bed in the second bedroom and me and DH in the other with our 7 month on in the portable pack and play.

This should be very comfortable, maybe a little tight with the bathrooms. But then MIL mentioned that SIL and BIL and their 7 and 3 year old could not afford a hotel so SHE invited them to stay with us too. I asked where she thought they would sleep and she said "we will make it work" I told her no, we are already maxed out on beds and 11 people including 3 teen girls and 2 women sharing 2 bathrooms. There is no room for air mattresses when the couches are folded out and when we have the pack and play up.

I am so mad at MIL that after we were nice enough to let them stay with us, she felt the need to overcrowd us with 4 more people without even asking. I told her that she will need to tell them that they can't stay with us. That's they way she is though, give her an inch, she will take a mile

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:13 PM
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by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:16 AM

If they can't afford their own accommodations why go?  As for MIL and FIL I would tell them to go fly a kite. They  felt free to invite other people they can go stay somewhere else. Like you said. You guys pay for your time share you should enjoy it.  When is this vacation?

by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:18 AM

Wow. Tell her that since she's staying with you, she can help foot the cost of your sil and bil's hotel room if she really wants them to come.

by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:22 AM
It is rude but all the young kids can sleep 3 to a bed.
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by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:26 AM

Aren't their timeshare rules about the limits on people? If not, there owuld be fire marshall rules. Get out of it that way. Sorry.

by Gold Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:27 AM

My MIL is the same way. And she doesn't ask first either. MIL should have asked you guys first before inviting the whole world. She's trying to be nice, so remember that. Don't get too upset even if it's extremely annoying. Just explain to her that it's not possible, (if your husband is like mine, I'm usually the one to say anything, bc he used to her and has given up, I however don't budge when it gets to a certain point). This doesn't have to be a big deal although you'll be made to feel really guilty, you can't always say yes though. Just stay calm and remember MIL was trying to be nice but her arrangement is not an option.

by Silver Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:29 AM

Yeah, that's not cool at all. I woud tell them they could pay for the SIL/BIL & kids to stay in a hotel since they were staying with you for free. If they don't like that, then they coud ALL go to a hotel and give you guys some space. You're a better person than me. To begin with, there would be no way I would share any of my space with my MIL during a vacation. I'd end up killing her or myself, LOL.

by Platinum Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:31 AM
Tell her that the time share has an occupant limit and you would jeopardize losing your timeshare. So there is no way SIL BIL and kids can stay.
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by Gold Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:38 AM

She is so wrong. i would have told her since she decided to invite them, she better uninvite them. If not, she and her husband can stay in the hotel with SIL and BIL and their kids.

by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:40 AM

I would just tell MIL that she is uninvited and if she wants to have further invitations, she needs to cut that habit out. I would consider the idea of replacing MIL/FIL with SIL and her family because they need it and bunk the kids with their parents.

by Ruby Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:43 AM

Ugh - I'd be mad too.  That was incredibly presumptuous of her to invite people to stay at a place that isn't even theirs without first asking. 

Have you husband talk to her about it again.  Yeah - you can make it work somehow, but seeing that you are already filled to the max I don't see how unless she herself is willing to give up the bedroom and sleep in any available corner.

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