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MIL invited people to stay in our vacation home

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Let me start from the beginning. There is going to be a family reunion in Disney World this spring for DH's whole family. We have a time share there that has 2 bedrooms and a living room and we were able to arrange to use some of our time during the  reunion, it is 6 nights, 7 days.

MIL and FIL asked if they could stay with us, knowing about our time share. Of the rooms, there is a master bedroom with a king size bed and a full size pull out couch. There is a living room with a full size fold out couch and then there is a second bedroom with two full size beds. There is 2 bathrooms and a small kitchen so with 2 people per bed that's 10 people plus we will have our baby's pack and play for her to sleep in.

So we figured we could give MIL and FIL the king bed in the master bedroom (they are bigger then me and DH and would not be comfortable sharing a full size bed) and our 4 and 9 year old sons would sleep on the fold out couch in the master bedroom. Our 17 year old DD and her friend who lives with us (her parents are military and were stationed in Germany and agreed to let her stay with us so that she could stay in high school) will sleep on the fold out couch.  That leaves our 6 and 13 year old girls in one bed in the second bedroom and me and DH in the other with our 7 month on in the portable pack and play.

This should be very comfortable, maybe a little tight with the bathrooms. But then MIL mentioned that SIL and BIL and their 7 and 3 year old could not afford a hotel so SHE invited them to stay with us too. I asked where she thought they would sleep and she said "we will make it work" I told her no, we are already maxed out on beds and 11 people including 3 teen girls and 2 women sharing 2 bathrooms. There is no room for air mattresses when the couches are folded out and when we have the pack and play up.

I am so mad at MIL that after we were nice enough to let them stay with us, she felt the need to overcrowd us with 4 more people without even asking. I told her that she will need to tell them that they can't stay with us. That's they way she is though, give her an inch, she will take a mile

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:13 PM
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by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:47 AM
I wouldn't mind being the bitch in this situation. It wasn't right to invite anyone else without your knowledge and the place is already full so tough titties... she wants to share with them so bad they can go split a hotel room with them.
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by Platinum Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:53 AM
If they can't afford a hotel room, how can they pay for Disney?
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by Bronze Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:54 AM
Maybe call the timeshare and see if you can get a 3 bedroom for a little bit more. Or ask if they can give you a discount on another one? At least try to give your BIL & SIL options...
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by Anonymous 7 on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:56 AM

Her just taking it upon herself to invite more people is bold and rude. 

When my Mom and Dad were building their new house they needed a place to stay for 4 months.  We let them live in our condo rent free.  We paid the mortgage and the utilities while they stayed there.  We did this because they are our parents and we wanted to help them out.    The trouble started when my mother moved in and literally started changing things around.  lol.  She actually got pissed at me because I told her that she could not put my things in my kitchen in storage and let her bring all of her kitchen items in.  We literally had 2 garages full of their boxes and items that were not in a storage bin.  Honestly I told her flat out.  While I am staying here at my condo it is my way or the highway.  Plain and simple.  My stepdad even told her that she was being ridiculous due to the fact the items I had in my kitchen were comparable to what she had.  My point being.  Put your foot down and basically tell her it is your timeshare and she may stay but the people that she invited without asking can not. 

by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:57 AM

Well if the truly can't afford it, maybe you can make it work, or find a priceline hotel and pay for it for them?  I would assume if they can afford plane tickets, they should be able to afford a motel 6?  Is this the same poster who said that MIL was changing seats on the plane?  I think it is time for your husband to have a big talk with his parents.

by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:57 AM


Quoting TexasWife:

I would have made my husband tell her. That way I wouldn't end up being the evil woman. I learned that the hard way. IT is really sucky that they can't afford a hotel but that isn't your problem. I guess MIL could kindly give up her bed and get a hotel room. lol. Better yet she could help her own child pay for her room. What a jerk.


by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 11:00 AM

I would not have that... at all.  That's not a vacation.  That's a nightmare.

by Ruby Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 11:04 AM
That's not ok at all.
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by Gold Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 11:28 AM

I'm glad you told her no, and didn't just let her have them over. I hate when people do something like that. That would completely aggravate me. Good job standing your ground!

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