expecting and hurting.

[Anonymous]

Ok.  Here is my first post here.

I recently left DH (13 year relationship) who I share 4 children wtih (he has them during the week and I on the weekends due to our work schedules).

I met an amazing man.  We moved in together.  he has two children from his previous marriage and they get along famously with mine.  I love our little blended family.

I have never known anyone so caring and nurturing as this man.  We decided we should have a baby together.  Which is crazy.  But, It feels right. 

However....

We occasionally have these little hiccups in the road of our relationship where he blatantly will be untrusting towards me and it makes me crazy.  I was having an affair for years before I left my husband but, it trully was because i felt trapped and like things were never going to get better.  I thought for sure I would die married to a man I resented so immensley for being a lazy man, drug addict, and terrible provider.  I managed not to tho.  And I would  NEVER cheat again.  Its so empty feeling.

I was upfront about my past wtih boyfriend and he said he understood.  He didn't.  He dosen't.  It makes him think i'm a pig i think.  We have these constant nagging little arguments about it.  I hate them. 

We have only been toghether about 6 months and are about 1 month pregnant. 

He thinks I should take a lie detector test to see what else I could be ly8ing about.  I resent it.  I would rather be alone.  And I do love him dearly.

I suppose I don't hav ea question, just needed to vent a bit.  I'm down to listen to anything you all have to say.

[Anonymous]

No way could I spend my life with someone not trusting me.

[Sammybby09]

You shouldn't have to live your life like that. I hope things get better

[Anonymous]

I couldn't be with someone who doesn't trust me.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Do you think the admission of the affair warrants the distrust?

Aside from the distrust, everything else is amazing.

[Nonobeth]

Its situations like this that make me wonder why people think its a good idea to tell their boyfriend/girlfriend all their dirty secrets from their pasts.

Whats that saying? A little less history and a little more mystery?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

We were friends first. Otherwise, I'd never have told.

Quoting Nonobeth:

Its situations like this that make me wonder why people think its a good idea to tell their boyfriend/girlfriend all their dirty secrets from their pasts.

Whats that saying? A little less history and a little more mystery?

[Anonymous]

Six months and you are already pregnant and feel this way?

Are you nuts?? This won't end well AT ALL.

[Anonymous]

First i would do something so my kids weren't in the custody of an addict.
If you want to make it work with this new guy be an open book. Have everything open to him. Go to therapy.
Honestly it seemed like you just jumped in too fast. Every relationship and person is going to have faults. Maybe you could just take some time to date you. Get to know and fall in love with yourself.

[Anonymous]

Well, one, I think you guys moved a little too fast. 6 months and pregnant. Wow. It could possibly be him freaking out because the sudden rush of things.
Two, no. Your PAST affair on an EX, does not warrant him being suspicious of you NOW.
One thing I'm not understanding however, is when you say "what else I could be lying about". Have you lied to him about something before? Anyway, this isn't going to end well unless things get fixed. At 6 months in, you shouldn't need to go to counciling. You should be able to just break it off if there are serious issues, and yes, this is serious. But you're pregnant, so you can't really do that.

[bustybee]

well, here is hoping everything turns out okay :)