My ds9 was diagnosed with Adhd and ODD at the very young age of three. As he gets older the problems get bigger. He is involved in threapy he is on medication, discipline is consistent. he destroys things out of anger and boredom (his bed our truck his toys his siblings toys my walls his clothes) He lies constently and when confronted with the lies he lies even more. He is stealing money, peoples phones, toys from school. takes hours upon hours to finish a simple chore with a whole lot of redirections. When he is punished he slams his head into walls screaming he hates him self he wishes he wasnt born.He fights with his brother and it has started to become physical. This morning when I told him He was not allowed to take toys to school he walked out of the house and called me a stupid bitch. My younger son 3 is starting to mimic his behavior. His Behavior is affecting my relationship with my husband. Im stressed out all the time. I can't cope and often have thoughts of putting him in a state facility and that make me feel guilty. I dont know what else to do to help him. Im afraid for my younger childrens physical safty around him. Please any advice would be greatly appriciated.