Question: Which option do you think is more fair?
Total Votes: 30
I am engaged and getting married in 6 months. Me and my fiance have decided to move in together now 1. because his lease is up and if he moved in with me and my kids now, it would save money and 2. because this way we could get everyone used to living together before the wedding.
I have a pretty standard 3 bedroom home, aside from the bedrooms, the floor plan is pretty much open, meaning there isn't any way to turn some of the living space into an extra bedroom. Moving to a bigger home, at this point, is not an option.
So we have 3 bedrooms and I have 3 kids, he has 2. My kids are:
His kids are:
His boys only visit him every other weekend, actually, not even because they are often spending the night at friend's homes. My kids live with me full time, their dad lives far away and usually just visit them when he visits his mom (who lives in town).
Right now, my two girls have a room, DS has a room and I have a room.
When fiance' moves in, obviously I think he should share my room and I think his boys should just camp on the fold out couch and everything else should stay the same.
I just don't see another way. According to CPS, in our state, none biologically related children can not share a room if they are different genders and if they are the same gender, they can't be more then 5 years apart to share a room.
He thinks that DS 7 should have bunk beds in his room and give up his room to fiance's kids when they come over and HE should sleep on the fold out couch or on a blow up mattress with his sisters.
I don't think that is right, I mean, what does that say to my son "yeah, that's your room unless your step brothers are here". My fiance's kids have bedrooms at their mom's house, one that he helps pay for via child support so I don't think it would hurt for them to sleep on the fold out couch every other weekend.