I have been a member of cafemom since 2007, but I haven't checked in for about five years. I checked in a few days ago because I have recently become a SAHM and I remembered that cafemom was a great place to talk to supportive women.
Holy shit, was I ever wrong!
During the last two days, I have been on cafemom for more hours that I care to admit, and I have discovered that Anonymous replies to a lot of posts and Anonymous is a real bitch.
About everything. From clothing choices, to daycare issues, to marital problems to whether or not you breast feed--Anonymous has the opinion that the original poster is a horrible person who deserves to burn in hell.
Furthermore, Anonymous sometimes adds post herself that have ridiculous subject matters that are guaranteed to start a shit storm...and she is smart enough to put up a subject line that appeals to my "reality TV" sensibilities.
I have formed the opinion that Anonymous is a whole herd of bored women that come up with subjects and ill formed opinions simply to keep the conversation rolling. Anonymous is all of the mean girls that we have ever known--the ones that will tell us that we suck AND blow so much harder than we ever thought.
I feel sorry for Annonymous, all of them, those ladies that get their kicks out of posting mean comments on a website meant to build up women.
***A couple of you have pointed out that if I don't like the anon feature, I can go to another group. That's true. I keep coming back because, as I stated, confessions appeals to my "reality TV sensibilities". I am a fan of all the houses wives--why? Because of the mean girls.
Anon keeps the conversation rolling, which is a good thing.
No, not all Anon's are mean, some are very kind. Some have made the point that if they don't post Anon, then other mom's stalk them. Totally valid reason to post Anon. Some Anon's don't want their families to know what they are saying--another valid reason.
A couple of you have also pointed out that we are all Anon--who can tell who a person is when their icon is hello kitty or an inspirational quote? That is also an excellent point.
Finally, if I gave the impression that I was bitching about this group or a prude who doesn't like swear words, then I didn't effectively communicate in my first post. Confessions is the fastest moving group--that makes it the best to read. Plus, Anon posts some pretty crazy shit from time to time, and that is pure entertainment.