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I will support her if imy daughter was pregnant

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If my daughter (soon to be a teen) came home at age 15-16 and told me she was pregnant. i wouldn't kick her out but inform her of all her options. If she decides to keep the baby i would ensure she finishes school and has at least a part time job. School's here have daycare for teen mother's which is free. she will step up and do the right thing for her child. I could never throw my daughter or grandchild out on their asses. I don't understand how some of you ladies can say you would...Love shouldn't stop just because your child didn't grow up the way YOU planned. Shit happens you learn to deal with it or your going to miss out on something amazing.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 20, 2013 at 9:37 AM
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AnastasiaKorsh
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:12 AM
For faculty members that don't have school aged children.

We had a day care at our HS, not many teen pregnancies (i can only name one person in the grade below me who was pregnant and had a baby) and the day care was used by many of the teachers.


Quoting EvilAsh:

I don't understand why schools should have daycares. That's just sad. It's like they're condoning teen pregnancy! 

I also don't understand those parents that abandon their kids because of a poor choice. I would be there for my kids too no matter what happened.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:13 AM

I wouldn't raise my grandchild but i wouldn't kick them out. If my daughter made an adult choice to lay down and get pregnant she will be adult enough to do the right thing and raise her own child...I would just be there to spoil my grandbaby


Quoting Anonymous:

What is the point in her having the child if everyone else is going to raise it? And have you ever watched Teen Mom? Those bitches never keep a job, let alone stay in school. I think that damn Chelsea and Amber have been trying for three years to get their GED LMAO


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:13 AM

I would be there no matter what for my child. I would help her finish school. & help her raise her child.

LovelyMommy24
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:15 AM
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LMAO! You always make me smile. :D

Quoting jbirdsladie27:

I can't understand either.

If there was birth control for males...damn skippy my sons would be on it......sexually active or not!!


Quoting LovelyMommy24:

I would feel the same way, but I would be making it clear to her that getting pregnant is not what we want to happen in this house. I would be getting her on birth control the second I even thought she was sexually active, hell maybe even before that. 

I will never understand the parents that turn their back on their child when they need them the most.


Josie_P
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:15 AM
I would support my daughter emotionally but not financially or watching her child. She chose to have sex, got pregnant, time to be a big girl. She will get a job, she will find child care for her child, she will learn of everything that comes with being a mother.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:15 AM
No excuse? Maybe they should just leave their babies home alone or on the schools doorstep UNSUPERVISED



Quoting EvilAsh:

It's stupid. If they get knocked up, it's their problem, they need to deal with the consequences. Sad tax payers' money goes toward daycare for poor choices. My best friend was 17 and pregnant and finished high school and went to college after as well. There's really no excuse if you want to stay in school and be successful.

Quoting Anonymous:

The concept of day cares at school was put forth in an effort to curb the drop out rate for teenage mothers. Girls will get pregnant in high school. A sad fact, but a fact none the less. It's nothing new. However, by incorporating day cares into high schools, it gives those girls one less excuse to drop out. And one more resource that will hopefully insure they ( the young mothers) go on and lead productive lives. Contribute to society as opposed to leeching off of it.

Quoting EvilAsh:

I don't understand why schools should have daycares. That's just sad. It's like they're condoning teen pregnancy! 

I also don't understand those parents that abandon their kids because of a poor choice. I would be there for my kids too no matter what happened.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:18 AM

I'm happy she will have a good mom. I got pregnant when I was 26 years old.  My mom acted like what I did was bad. She wanted to send me away and have the doc just take it out. We don't talk. And we have 2 boys now. My aunt calls herself grandma to our boys. 

othermom
by Ruby Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:20 AM

I would be supportive of my child too if that situation ever arrose. I got pregnant at 18 and know how scary it can be

elisesmom922
by Silver Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:21 AM

Totally agree! I was 17 when I got Pregnant, 18 when I had my DD11. As religious as my parents are, and as disappointed as they were, throwing us away like trash was NEVER an option. I am adopted, and there were "friends" of my mom's who told her "Put her out, she isn't REALLY your child anyway." My mom was appalled by these "Christian friends", showed them the door, and never looked back. My parents could've easily went the other route, especially since I would be an adult before the baby came. I graduated HS 4 months pregnant, and finished vocational school as well pregnant, b/c my parents helped me. My heart aches for all the teen moms out there with parents like some of the bitches on CM, putting their kids and babies out! Ok, vent over!

needsupport100
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:21 AM

it all depends for me. if she turned out like some of the mom's on teen mom. i'd take custody of the baby and make HER get out...especially once she turns 18.

HOWEVER, if she is truly proving herself (finishing school, working, college plans, etc) the we can talk about options.

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