I saw a post earlier about special needs children as it relates to physical handicaps and obvious medical special needs in children. The poster was discussing judgment from the public, etc. and it got me to thinking, "What about the children whose special needs are so much less obvious"?
My son for example has autism and language processing disorder. If you go up and talk to him in public for more than five minutes, you'll notice right away. However, if you don't actually speak with him, you don't. I have people openly glare at him (and me) angrily, come up to me to discuss parenting discipline tactics, utter mean words under their breath about how I should "tame that little spoiled brat", and so on.
We were in the grocery store just a couple of days ago when he was having one of his meltdowns. And when I say "meltdowns" people automatically think "brat". But in actuality, he has strong sensory problems. He was upset about a tag in the back of his shirt that was irritating him, then the loudspeaker was too loud. The wheels of the grocery cart were squeaky. May sound trivial to you guys, but to my son, it actually is sensory overload and he cries, yells, and sometimes literally falls to the floor until I correct the issue.
So back to the grocery store delimma, during his meltdown he cut off this random stranger, and her reaction was strange. I expected the same old, "control your kid glare" or sigh, but instead she said, "That's just life mama, chill out", as if my problems are trivial. I'd call this an "under reaction" (as opposed to the common overreaction) where another parent has NO freaking idea what they've just encountered and are treating the parent like they're being mean.
Either way, parents of special needs children that are not obvious, can you please give me some advice on how to deal with the way other people handle my child?